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• 1 Zinnat // Feb 2, 2010 at 7:00 am

  Hi Dana,
  My 27-month old daughter still wakes up several times a night.
  I was breast-feeding for 23 months and during that time, nursing was her only way of falling asleep, spending three quarters of the night in my bed. Last october i stopped the nursing and now the only way she falls asleep is when i’m lying down beside her in her little bed.
  At around 10.00pm she will wake up again and i get into her bed again to try and make her sleep. But she wakes up again around 1am and i’m usually too tired so i just take her in bed with me. Sometimes she wakes up several times before 10.00 and there’s no evening for me!
  Her bedtime routine starts around 6.30pm and consist of a bath, putting clothes on, story or prayers then lights off and i lie down next to her. As my bed is in the same room, i have tried lying on my bed instead of hers, but she cries incessantly and simply climbs out of her bed and tries to get on mine.
  I would like your advice please.
  Thank you.
  Zinnat

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  Reply by amanda:
  February 4th, 2010 at 12:06 pm

  i have the same problem. exept my little boy will go to bed beautifully, but wake up at about 9 or 10 he cries so much he makes himself sick. he will wake up atleast every hour. we do not share a room. what can we do????!! this i very exausting.

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• 2 Amy // Feb 2, 2010 at 12:31 pm

  My baby is 15 months old now and he will not sleep through the night. He gets up about twice a night and i give him his bottle and he goes right back to sleep. I want to know how to break this. And i also want to know how to get him off bottles and on sippy cups. Thank you so much, you are amazing!

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• 3 Michelle MacLean // Feb 2, 2010 at 2:49 pm

  My 9 month old son refuses to eat any solid foods and will only breast feed. I have been trying to introduce foods to him since he was 5 and 1/2 months old when he seemed very interested in what we were eating. He got onto it after awhile and then stopped eating again just a month later. It has been a lengthy process of trying cereals, mixes of fresh fruit and cereal, cinnamon and cereal, mashed potatoes, mashed potatoes and beef and numerous other things. I’m worried about him getting enough to eat and enough iron and other nutrients. It wasn’t so bad having to breast feed every 2 hours except he is now not sleeping through the night and wakes intermittently needing to feed. If I don’t feed he screams like I’ve never heard before. Any suggestions or tips?

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• 4 Anne // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:05 pm

  My baby is almost 4 months old. We have a sleep routine of a bath and a bottle right before bed. Most of the time she goes down well but will not stay asleep long. The problem is that she has too many props. We just stopped swaddling her and have moved her from her favorite place to sleep (the swing) to a co-sleeper by our bed. She also takes a pacifier which has become a real probem. When it falls out she screams until you put it back in. I wouldn’t have a problem with letting her cry it out, but we have a two year old also who needs her sleep and don’t want to wake. The last time we tried to let her cry it out I gave in after she screamed for 40 minutes. We feel like we have to get up every 30 minutes to put her pacifer back in all through the nite. What should we do?

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  Reply by Natalie:
  February 3rd, 2010 at 12:57 pm

  Hi Anne,
  My baby is 3 months old, and we are very similar with our situations. My baby has a morning nap in her crib, but needs to be rocked with her soother in her mouth to sleep. She will nap anywhere from 1-2.5 hours. No nap in the afternoon, I can get her to sleep, but can’t keep her sleeping which is the same in the evening until I finally give up and bring her to bed with me. She is then up several times in the night to be breastfed (which I know she is using to be pacified) or for me to put the soother back in her mouth. I too have let her cry, after over one hour, she fell asleep for a whole half hour, my thought is that is way too hard on me and her for the half hour of sleep, which she still wakes tired anyway. Wish I knew what to do….

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• 5 Kerri // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:08 pm

  I have the same question as Cynthia but I am dealing with a 4 month old. It’s hard to tell if he really needs something (hungry) or if he’s just awake and cant fall asleep. Of course he will eat if I let him but I dont want to feed him if he is comfort feeding. I want to break this pattern before he is to old.

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• 6 Erin // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:12 pm

  I have a 12 month old who goes to sleep on his own fine around 7:30. We give him some milk, then take him upstairs, read a book, and put him in his crib. He will talk himself to sleep. Then he is up crying around 10:00. We feed him and put him back to bed. This can happen 2-3 times a night. He always drinks his whole cup when he goes. He is on regular food and whole milk in a cup. I don’t understand how he can put himself to sleep at 7:30 but not at any other time of the night. Could he be just hungry all the time? Thanks for the advice.

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• 7 stephanie // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:15 pm

  Hi Dana - what’s the youngest age of infant with whom one should try the above routine?

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• 8 Lesley // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:18 pm

  My son is 16months, we co-sleep and I live with my parents. Yes I do nurse him to sleep still…I know, I know. I tried to break him this passed summer but my father took a bit of an issue with being kept awake - so not wanting to ruffle anyone’s feathers - I continued nursing when Aidan awoke during the night. He is great to stay asleep even when I come to bed - until about 12:00-2:00. Between these hours he will usually wake up and ask for Mama or Grampa and if he doesn’t like the answer he gets, he asks to nurse. I am back at work full-time now and really need to stop this cycle and get a full night’s sleep. I have tried just soothing him, rocking him but he just will not settle if he doesn’t have me or his bottle.
  I would love some guidance on this. Thank you so much Dana!

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• 9 lora // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:20 pm

  Hello,

  I’ve read lots of books, etc. on the “proper” way to form good sleep habits. What I’m interested in reading is how to break bad sleep habits (dependency and rocking to sleep) to start new. My daughter is 18 months and doesn’t know how to self sooth.

  Thanks!
  Lora

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• 10 Mandy Fletcher // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:33 pm

  Dear Dana,

  I have been wanting to start this program for quite some time, but it seems like whenever I want to begin my son, Peter, has a cold, isn’t feeling well, or I’m so exhausted I simply give in and nurse him to sleep. Now he is teething and I wanted to start last night, but after a few minutes of crying my husband questioned if we should begin when Peter’s teething. So, since I was too tired to argue I picked up Peter and nursed him to sleep once again. Is it ok to begin the program when he’s teething?

  Thank you,
  Mandy

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• 11 Joanne // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:33 pm

  My son Aaron is 7 months old. He now goes to sleep on his own and I have in the last fortnight stopped giving him a bottle through the night however he still wakes up moaning a few times through the night and I have to give him his soother. How can I get him to sleep right through without wakening?

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• 12 Kay // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:37 pm

  My 2.5 year old granddaughter has always gone to bed for naps and the night very easily, no crying of such. Recently, she gets very upset at bedtime and refuses to go to sleep alone and remain in her room. This seems to have started when she was ill and vomiting over the course of several hours. Since then she will not sleep in her crib. Parents put the crib mattress on the floor and she will go to sleep there if someone stays with her but will get up in the night and go to her parents’ room and sleep on the floor by their bed. What to do?

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• 13 Debi // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:37 pm

  I am having problems with getting my 1 year old to take naps in the morning and afternoon, unless she is being held. This Has never been an issue in the past. However, every time I l go to lay her down after she falls asleep, she wakes up immediately and cries until I have to pick her up again. What should I do?

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• 14 Vicki // Feb 2, 2010 at 3:47 pm

  My little boy has just turned 1 and goes to bed fine, but wakes screaming through the night and then wants to get up and play when I go to settle him? He can go to sleep himself, that isnt the problem.

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• 15 sonia // Feb 2, 2010 at 4:24 pm

  Hi Dana
  You say make a routine i.e bathtime story feed and then put the baby in crib wide awake. My son is almost 3 months old. I give him bath every night around 7 feed him and when I put him in his crib he just cries and cries. How can he go to sleep then? Please inform. Thank you.

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  Reply by Fiona:
  February 5th, 2010 at 4:04 am

  At three months we were still nursing my son (who is now 17mths) and by the time he was 6 mths it was 2 hard. We tried controlled crying but it didnt work and it was distressing us. So we did a modified controlled crying. We did the whole routine thing, very similar to what you described. We gave him a bottle/breast fed him then put him down for sleepy time. We made sure he was warm enough, dummy insitu etc and then left the room. He cried and cried. After 8 mins if he is still crying we went in, picked him up cuddled him sang a song, then put him down, then another 8 mins rinse and repeat. The first 2 nights was very ahrd and I think we did it 4 to 5 times, then it got less and less and with in a week, he went to sleep once we gave him the dummy after his feed. He is 17 mths now and it still works! You have to be VERY strong and wait a whole 8 mins. if you cave it doesn’t work. Its easier on you because you have a goal, a time limit so it really is less heart breaking

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  Reply by Fiona:
  February 5th, 2010 at 4:05 am

  “nursing” i mean nursing him to sleep in our arms, as he would only fell asleep if we held him and rocked him asleep

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• 16 emma // Feb 2, 2010 at 4:31 pm

  I have managed to get my 9 month old baby sleeping through the night with a great deal of controlled crying, but he wakes very early about 5.30 - 5.45am when I give him a 5 oz bottle he goes back to sleep for another couple of hours. He is also not too keen on breakfast as I think he is filling himself up with milk? At the moment I don’t mind doing this as I’d rather get back to sleep than get up before 7, but am I setting myself up for an early rising toddler who expects milk early in the morning?

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• 17 coralee ropchan // Feb 2, 2010 at 4:46 pm

  My baby is 13 months old and I relate completely to Cynthia. We nurse frequently during the night and I recognize that I am his soother. I believe in shared sleep as a parenting philosophy and co-slept with my first child. He slept easily at night and sleeping side by side posed no problems with waking. I would like to continue to co-sleep with my 13 month old, but would like to see him sleep longer than 2-3hrs without waking, crying, and nursing back to sleep. How can I do this?

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• 18 Milinda Darnell // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:01 pm

  My husband won’t help support me in getting our son to sleep the way he needs to get to sleep. My husband stays stressed about the bills and stuff like that. He’ll say one day that he won’t get mad and help to support me but the next day or even later that same day, he gets mad because he says that he can’t deal with the crying and especially when he still has company over, he just won’t help support me.I know this has more to do with marriage counseling than parenting but I thought maybe you had a solution.

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  Reply by Sally:
  February 4th, 2010 at 8:51 am

  Hi Milinda

  You don’t mention how old your son is, however for effective sleep training you do need the support of the entire household. Is it possible to sit down and discuss this rationally with your husband, as once your son is sleeping well, you will be a more effective wife - coming from someone who’s been there. My daughter was a lousy sleeper, and I never saw my husband, until we were able to teach my daughter how to self soothe.
  Is it possible maybe for you husband to go away for a couple of nights, and perhaps a close friend/family friend can come over to support you? Its not nice listening to your young one getting worked up, so support for you is vital. Trust your gut, and if it is too hard, leave it a week or so, then try again.
  Good Luck

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• 19 Nicole // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:12 pm

  I have twins that are 6 months old (Sofi, my very bad sleeper & Alex, my good sleeper). They share a room so I was hoping that the blog above would help answer my questions….but I still do not see how to sleep train Sofi without waking Alex. He wakes up whenever she cries for more that 2 minutes-help. We live in a tiny apartment so even when we are out in the other room, he can hear her so we end up giving in and giving her the bottle or paci every time (about 4X per night) just so that he can sleep. I know she has learnered how to self soothe to a degree because she does it when she wants to, yet in the middle of the night is not it. Thank you.

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• 20 Duncan // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:13 pm

  Hi
  My almost one year old has been waking earlier and earlier in the morning over the last month or two. His fist bottle is a 7am and he used to sleep until anywhere between 6:30 and 7 but he’s been waking progressively earlier and earlier until now he usually wakes at around 5:30 and then really stuggles to hold it together until somebody gets up to comfort him until it’s time to eat. He has a nap at around 10am (usually goes for 1-1.5 hours) and then another at about 2:30 which also last around an hour. Bed time is 7pm.
  Do you have any suggestions for getting him back on the old routine of waking closer to 7am?

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  Reply by RHIAN HUGHES:
  February 3rd, 2010 at 10:23 am

  HI MY 18 MONTH DID EXACTLY THE SAME, I THINK SHE WOKE ME ABOUT 6 THEN I WENT IN AND COMFORTED HER A BIT (FOR ABOUT 10-15 MIN) THEN PUT HER DOWN, BEFORE DOING THIS CHANGE THE NAPPY AND OFFER A DRINK THEN PUT HIM DOWN, LEAVE THE ROOM AND WAIT 5 MIN THEN OBVIOSUSLY FOLLOW DANA ADVICE ON SLEEP, I FOUND IT HARD TO DO IT EARLY IN THE MORNING BACAUSE I WAS TIRED BUT BELIVE ME IT ONLY TAKES A COUPLE OF MORNINGS THEN THEY START TO ADABT WHAT TIME YOU WANT THEM TO GET UP I GET UP ABOUT 7.30, I DONT LEAVE HER FOR ANY LONGER THAN 12 HOURS UNLESS SHE NEEDS IT, GOOD LUCK.

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• 21 maz // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:19 pm

  hi my daughter is really giving me a hard time at nights she used to sleep well before, now she is 14 months i stopped giving her her bottle in the crib, when i put her to sleep she drinks her milk before she goes to sleep but now what she has started is she sleeps for one hour and then starts crying in her sleep and she wakes up about 5 times at night for her bottle plz help i have to keep two bottles one with milk and the other one with water she sleeps in my room but now i want to move her in her room plz help !!!

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  Reply by RHIAN HUGHES:
  February 3rd, 2010 at 10:16 am

  HI MY 18 MONTH OLD WILL HAV HER BOTTLE AT 6.30-7 AND THATS IT, IT SEEMS SHE USES HER BOTTLE AS A COMFORT TO GO TO SLEEP, DOES SHE HAV A FAV TEDDY? DO YOU PUT HER DOWN AWAKE? IF YOU DO THEN I THINK YOU SHOULD STOP OFFERING HER THE BOTTLE IN THE NIGHT BECAUSE SHE USES IT AS A COMFORT THING, FOLLOW DANA ADVICE ON SLEEPING AND TAKE IT FROM THERE, GOOD LUCK.

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• 22 Ivette // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:24 pm

  My baby is 12 months and sleeps alone at 8:30 am She wakes up at 10:00 pm as she begins to cry for her out of the crib. First I check if she has any pain or need something but she just wants her out. When I tell her it’s night and still have to continue sleeping in her crib she cries until she starts coughing up vomit. What advice would you give me?

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• 23 Dodo // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:25 pm

  My baby is 9 month old and he still needs 3 naps a day, I tried to push back the 2nd nap to transtion him to 2 naps only , but he was grumpy and cranky all day long, and I thought that this will help him sleep better at night, but he still waking up every 2 to 3 hours, I stopped feeding him thru the night 4 month ago . Should I keep his 3 naps , please help?

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• 24 Tria Bullard // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:34 pm

  My 14.5 month old is a total momma’s boy. He co-sleeps with my husband and me, as we have a small house we are remodeling and our older children are already sharing a room. I am trying to wean him from nursing (he has a bottle of breastmilk at daycare during the day, then one or two bottles of formula per day). I’ve started putting him to bed with a bottle of formula to get him to go to sleep without nursing. I’ve put myself in this situation, as I’ve let him nurse off and on throughout the night in order to get some sleep! He obviously associates nursing and going to sleep. I have no idea how to sleep train him while weaning off of nursing. I’ve tried to let him CIO in the pack-and-play and he went ALL night screaming and crying. He finally fell asleep sitting up in the corner of the pack-and-play. I often have to travel for work and it’s a nightmare for my husband. My husband also has severe chronic pain in his neck and back, so it’s hard for him to be up all night with the baby…or else I would let him sleep train the baby. Also, as soon as I get up in the morning, my son wakes up. I can be completely away from him and not touching him and when I get out of bed, he wakes up. HELP!

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• 25 devin gray // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:38 pm

  My 25 month old son “bounces” himself to sleep. He jumps up and down in his crib until he falls asleep. He does this for naps and through the night. No matter what bedtime routine we are into he does this as the final step. Then he wakes up several times (2-3) through the night. The last time is usually around 5 in the morning. Most times he ‘bounces” himself back to sleep but the last time he will jump in his bed for an hour waiting for us to go get him. He cries out, waking the whole family if we don’t go in and lay with him. We have a set routine for bedtime 10 min. cartoon, brush teeth, wash hands, pajamas, book and bed. We tried giving baths at bedtime but it gets him extremely wired up. He is in bed between 7:30 and 8pm every night. How do we get him to stop jumping in his crib and stop waking up through the night?

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• 26 Mollie Callahan // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:40 pm

  I feel like I am doing all the right things for my 5 month old but everyday is so different how do I get him to have more regularity to his daytime sleeping. He generally naps at 9 1 and 4 sometimes I have to wake him up for the morning nap and sometimes his afternoon nap is only a hlf hour! Is this common or am I doing something wrong

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• 27 Hannah Parkes // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:41 pm

  Please help us!
  I know it is early days, our baby daughter is only a week old but has developed a nocturnal sleep pattern since before birth. She will not settle to sleep for any length of time until after 5am, then is exhausted and will have long sleeps during day, just waking for feeds. Then after 10pm is awake and agitated all night, nursing and filling nappies non-stop. I know she cannot need so much feeding and probably just wants comfort but what else can i do when she is crying, rooting and waking my other young children up? How can i change her sleep pattern, we can’t keep her awake during day when she is so tired and so young.
  Thank you!
  Hannah and Jon Parkes

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  Reply by cat:
  February 4th, 2010 at 8:09 am

  given that your baby is only one week old i think you should keep doing what your doing. it can take babies up til three months before they learn and are capable of learning day from night. my bub used to feed every two to three hours sometimes even more frequently and as i was demand feeding i would follow her lead. i was told by about six weeks of age it starts to settle down which was true for me. i think for now all you can do it follow your babies lead, au this age they are just running on instincts.

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  Reply by Sally:
  February 4th, 2010 at 8:55 am

  Hi Hannah

  My daughter did this for about 6 weeks, then voila overnight it changed. She was awake most nights between 8pm and 5am, then slept until 11isham, then napped in the afternoon. Seriously, she swapped it herself overnight one day
  Good Luck

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• 28 Jason kreuger // Feb 2, 2010 at 5:59 pm

  How do I get my 19 month old to sleep through the night. We get up to her more than our newborn….probley 2 n 3 times a night still…

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  Reply by RHIAN HUGHES:
  February 3rd, 2010 at 10:09 am

  HI MAKE SURE YOU PUT HER DOWN AWAKE-BUT I KNOW IT MUST BE DIFFICULT WITH A NEWBORN BUT PLEASE BELIVE ME IT TOOK ME A COUPLE OF NIGHTS, KEEP GOING IN EVERY 5 MIN OR SO BUT TRY AND LENGHTHEN THE TIME EACH TIME, MAKE SURE WHEN YOU GO IN TO TALK VERY GENTLE AND KEEP SAYING ITS TIME TO SLEEP OR SSHHHHH ETC, AND THE MAIN THING TO STICK TO THIS ROUTINE BELIVE ME IT REALLY DOES WORK GOOD LUCK, PS- IF YOUR BABY LIKES TO BE PICKED UP LIKE MY BABY DOES -DO IT BUT ONLY FOR A SHORT TIME THEN BACK DOWN AND WALK OUT REMEMBER TO KEEP YOUR VOICE REALY SOFT AND GENTLE .

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• 29 Jenny Broderick // Feb 2, 2010 at 6:17 pm

  Hi Dana,

  Kelly is almost 5 months old. She is sleeping well at night ,but wakes up frequently at naptime. She sleeps with a pacifier. How do I
  get her to sleep and not wake up every 15 mintues during nap time?

  Thanks
  Janet

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• 30 Anonymous // Feb 2, 2010 at 8:04 pm

  My son is twelve weeks old and has settled into a good sleep regime at night. He goes down in his own bed at 7pm and wakes the next morning at 6am. He either sleeps all the way through the night or will wake for one or two feeds. Putting him back down again after feeds is fine and if he wakes in the night he sends himself back to sleep. Sounds perfect I know. However, during the day he is a differant baby, he won’t go down for a nap for more than 10 minutes at a time and just ends up getting over tired and falling asleep in my arms where he will sleep without a problem untill I try to put him down again and then he wakes up and the cycle starts again.
  How can we have it so right at night but so difficult in the day?
  Thank you
  Lorna

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  Reply by Andrea:
  February 3rd, 2010 at 3:37 am

  I am not an expert and am still walking this path with my baby, but in sleep training her, I learned quickly that daytime sleep and night time sleep are different associations for her. Maybe it’s dark and light, but I had to train her to sleep both for day and night before she got okay with the idea. My baby is a year old. I didn’t sleep train my 12 week old, but I also didn’t get a lot done. My little girl is able to understand somewhat that I am still here, that I will go in and hug her and cheerfully pick her up when she wakes up, but it sounds like if your baby is a good sleeper at night, then the training and sleep associations that you did for him worked. You just have to set up some daytime/napping ones for him during the day too.

  Again, just my 2 cents.

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• 31 leila // Feb 2, 2010 at 8:31 pm

  i have a 7 month old baby . he wakes up several time at night and cry until i hug him .also i have problem when i start to prepare him for sleep , becouse he cant sleep in his cut ,i have to rock him and wolking until he sleep. plz help me in my problem

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• 32 sarah // Feb 2, 2010 at 8:33 pm

  hi i have a 6mth old boy and i am only just trying to get him into a routine now. i have always rocked hi to sleep or fed him to sleep and he has always slept in bed with us and now it is so hard to get him out of that also he always has only slept 30 min at a time during the day i am now making him have an hour and a half naps. i now swaddle him and place him in his crib he also uses a dummy. at night i have a routine play, solids, bath, massage, and then feed him in our room and put him in the cot in our room he falls asleep for 30min then wakes and it takes me 3 hours to get him back to sleep as i dont want to feed him to sleep and he still wakes after that for breast i try to cuddle him back to sleep nothing works PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!

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  Reply by theeb:
  February 3rd, 2010 at 12:18 am

  some what similar problem …..help please

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• 33 Catherine // Feb 2, 2010 at 9:09 pm

  Dana…. Help me!

  My baby is only 7 months and is exclusively BF’d… he sometimes falls asleep on his own but he has to be drouzy and full first. He is still waking 3-5 times a night and I have to nurse him back to sleep. Since he is our 3rd baby, he is sharing our room for now so he doesn’t wake my 2 year old… I can’t see him going to sleep on his own any time soon… Any suggestions?

  Thanks in advance,
  Catherine

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• 34 Natasha // Feb 2, 2010 at 9:36 pm

  My two year old son is going through a stage where he wakes up during the night and wants to come into bed with me. He has his own room with a bed etc and he sleeps fine in it. I have tried the approach of leaving him in his room and closing the door but the screaming lasts for ages so in the end I cave in and bring him into bed with me and once he is asleep I put him back in his own bed and he is fine and wakes like normal in the mornings. Do you have any suggestions about getting him to stay in his own bed. I have tried the controlled crying method but the screaming seems to last for an eternity and dont like to see my son Fletch get all worked up.
  Thanks

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• 35 melissah minnick // Feb 2, 2010 at 9:56 pm

  my 10 month old gets up several sometimes up to 7x’s a night she is nursed and the doctor has said try to get her to feed less when she is up. try to get her to eat more during the day but she will only eat so much and we(I) have tried many different foods some she likes better than others but dr thinks she is trying to get more calories at night when she is sleeping. and she sleeps in the same room as her 10 year old fourth grade brother and i fall asleep when waking in the middle of the night nursing her any other ideas? im soooooo tired and don’t want to stop nursing her even though my husband wants me to for his own selfish reasons and most family members according to him think that i need to stop nursing altogether and let her “cry” it out but lizzy is VERY stubborn and will make herself vomit before she gives in even if i pat her back intermitantly. and the kicker she puts her self to sleep at daycare.

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• 36 Ellen // Feb 2, 2010 at 9:56 pm

  Most evenings I nurse my 7 month old to sleep, however, if he doesn’t fall asleep, he will go down awake and put himself to sleep. Most nights he wakes up several times and will go back to sleep if I put the pacifier in his mouth. I feed him once during the night, anywhere from 1am-4am. I usually know it’s time b/c the paci doesn’t work, and he will cry hysterically if I leave him. When I feed him we both end up usually falling asleep for an hour or so, then I put him back usually without a problem. I’m just not sure if I’m doing the right thing at this point. Additionally, he is not a good napper. He’ll take a morning one for 45 min to 2 hours (very very rarely), then another nap a couple of hours later for another 45min-1 hour. I can’t seem to get him to take a 3rd nap without him being very very upset and crying for 25-30 minutes, although I know he needs it. Bed is b/w 6-7pm. At 7 months, what are his sleep requirements?

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• 37 jenn bacon // Feb 2, 2010 at 10:06 pm

  my son sam is 5 months old. I work till 11 at night and dad gives him a bottle around 5pm with dinner then again around 8pm. I am breastfeeding and he still wakes 2-3 times a night does he need to eat, how do I try and stop him if he doesn’t need it?

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• 38 Lorin // Feb 2, 2010 at 10:39 pm

  Dana, I have the same problem as Catherine. Any advice??? Lorin Hubbard

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• 39 Julia // Feb 2, 2010 at 10:58 pm

  Dear Dana,
  My son, Liam, has just recently started sleeping through the night (or at least most of the night). He is 13 months old and has learned how to fall asleep without nursing, as I recently cut out the night time feeds. It took trying the “stay in the room” method and enduring a few nights of resistance, but in the end he slept from 7:00pm to 6:30am. Lately, however, he is starting to wake up at 5:30am and even 5:00am, inspite of his 7:00 bed time. He naps for about an hour and fifteen minutes in the late morning/ early afternoon and then gets tired and grunpy at about 5:00pm. My question is this: how can I get him to sleep the full 12 hours at night and to not wake up so early?
  I appreciate any help you can offer us on this matter.
  Thank you,
  Julia

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• 40 Nicole // Feb 2, 2010 at 11:37 pm

  My 5 month old daughter is an ok sleeper, she goes to sleep fine, and sleeps pretty much through the night. My question however is even though she falls asleep fine it’s usually on my shoulder, and when I go to put her down in her crib she wakes up and freaks out. I go through this about 10-20 times a night!!!! I usually get her in her bed sleeping anywhere from 11pm - 1am and sometimes she’s up ALL NIGHT! What do I do about this????

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• 41 theeb // Feb 3, 2010 at 12:21 am

  i find it difficult to hear babies cry.to sleep……we swaddle him…he wakes up 2 hourly….but activly sucking…is he hungry or for comfort i am not sure…nap also we need to swaddle him

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• 42 Rae // Feb 3, 2010 at 12:47 am

  My 10 month old daughter is co-sleeping with me and I have managed to stop the all night/hourly feeding. However, I am still struggling with getting her to sleep in her crib. She falls asleeps fine on her own if she is right under me… in my bed. But if I put her in her crib she stands up, cries, and reaches out to be picked up. When I pick her up she immediately falls asleep. I know she is tired but how can I teach her to fall asleep with Mommy.

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• 43 Priscilla // Feb 3, 2010 at 2:26 am

  Hi,
  My daughter is 17 months old and when I am around, she won’t sleep unless I breastfeed her. Otherwise she’s very naughty. Even at bedtime, it’s the same thing. She still awakes 2 to 3 times per night and won’t sleep unless i feed her again. I tried to stop but since she’s naughty, I am dead tired and my husband is very fussy about his sleep, He doesn’t like to be disturbed, I end up feeding her. I forgot to tell u, she is still sharing my bed and I am pregnant again. Please help me.

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• 44 Susan Cameron // Feb 3, 2010 at 3:39 am

  HI I have a 3 year old and twins ages 14 months, I haev not had a nights sleep since…I can remember. They are in the same room but seperate cots, we have tried different rooms but this did not work. They go to sleep awake and settle well, they will take it in turns to waken during the night where I try to settle them in their beds but they are noisy and have started head banging the cot. They go to bed at 6pm and are awake a few times during the night, they eat well during the day and have 2 naps first 7am 1 hour and 2nd 12ish about 1 1/2 hours. I need some sleep, anything you can suggest?
  Susan

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• 45 Gema // Feb 3, 2010 at 5:40 am

  My lo is 15 weeks old and teething. She suffering and it is affecting her sleep. Is there anything i can do to help her sleep. this has been happening since she was 7 weeks old.

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• 46 RHIAN HUGHES // Feb 3, 2010 at 10:03 am

  I WOULD LIKE TO THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR THE THE SLEEPING ADVICE, BY 18 MONTH SLEEPS THROUGH THE NIGHT AT LAST!!!!!!!!!!!
  IT TOOK ME 3-4 NIGHTS OF HELL BUT BOY WAS IT WORTH IT! FINALLY WE ARE GETTING OUR LIVES BACK TO NORMAL THANKS TO YOU X

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• 47 Tammi // Feb 3, 2010 at 10:47 am

  I have a 10 week old that gets up at least three times in the night. He has had bad “gas” tummy so often he has gas, is farting, and is not necessarily getting up to eat. BUT, he is a big boy so does eat every 2-3 hours. I have been told he will grow out of this. In the meantime, he is not sleeping and neither am I and I am worried that he will learn bad habits and once his gas subsides, continue to get up. I have tried given him a pacifier, but like my was daughter, he is not interested, he just spits it up. (The situation with my son seems even more difficult because my daughter was a great sleeper and still is and started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks.) Sometimes the gas drops work, but that is not something I have given him in the middle of the night to help with his “gas” issues. Any suggestions, comments? Thanks!

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• 48 Jurate // Feb 3, 2010 at 11:07 am

  Hello,
  My question is about my 6 & 1/2 months old son. He falls asleep in the evening and at night on his own in his crib by himself. The problem is that he is not able to fall asleep in his crib during the day (nap time). We tried different techniques and they didn’t work. He was colicy baby so he is used to being rocked to sleep and used to sleep in his stroller during the day. Now he wants to fall asleep in my arms. How do I get him to nap in his crib?

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• 49 Natalie // Feb 3, 2010 at 1:05 pm

  Hi Dana,
  My situation is very much like Anne’s, I posted a comment to her as well on Feb 3rd. Any suggestions?

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• 50 Debbie // Feb 3, 2010 at 1:13 pm

  For weeks now I have been putting my 8 month old daughter to sleep when she is still awake and without a pacifier so she is completely putting herself to sleep on her own. She does this pretty easily now without much fussing or crying. The problem is that she is still waking up 2-3 times a night and is not able to put herself back to sleep. I let her have ample time to work it out on her own before going in to comfort her, but it is a bit difficult to have her crying and screaming in the middle of the night with another 3 year old child who also will wake up when hearing her. When I do comfort her, I simply go in her room and start her music box and rub her back, but she will still wake up again and again. My question is why is she waking up if I am putting her in her crib awake and she is fully putting herself to sleep on her own. I seem to be doing everything right, but yet, I am still one exhausted mother. Please help me determine why my daughter is continuing to wake up. I don’t understand why she is waking up so many times and for such long periods at night. I REALLY need help!! Thank you!

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• 51 Nicky // Feb 3, 2010 at 1:54 pm

  What to do if you have a new baby and your 2 year old wants to nurse as well

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  Reply by Sally:
  February 4th, 2010 at 9:03 am

  Hey Nicky

  I am not sure where you live, but I would suggest contacting your local breastfeeding association, as they would have trained counsellors who are able to offer several solutions to this issue

  Good luck

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  Reply by kassandra:
  February 4th, 2010 at 5:37 pm

  hi my name is kassandra i had the same problem with my son so i gave my son a nummy and and i grabed a small thing of milk i put it and the nummy to my breast so it looks like you are giving them milk from the breast and they will leave you alone. so just pour the milk into the nummy.

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• 52 Aislinn // Feb 3, 2010 at 2:08 pm

  Dana,
  I have a 6 month old that just doesn’t want to sleep through the night. We just recently have tried putting him in the crib but around the second time he wakes up, he wants to stay awake and play for about an hour before he gets drowsy. After waking up the second time I try to lay him back in the crib after I nurse him and falls asleep but he wakes up screaming and just won’t fall back asleep so I give in and bring him back to bed and nurse him again until he falls back asleep and keep him in the bed with us the rest of the night. I’m not sure what to do, he’s also has two teeth cutting through right now and I don’t know if that’s whats bothering him. Help!

  Thank you,
  Aislinn

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• 53 Tamsan // Feb 3, 2010 at 2:37 pm

  Help!! My 5 month old daughter wakes every hour throughout the entire night on most nights. She can’t seem to make it through a sleep cycle and I’ve stopped attempting to put her into her crib. I am extremely sleep deprived and don’t know what to do.

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• 54 RAMB // Feb 3, 2010 at 4:07 pm

  My daughter is 2 and has always been a great sleeper. Recently we moved her to a toddler bed and now she won’t lie down while I am in the room and screames when I leave and keeps getting up and coming out the room into the hallway. Is there anyway I can get this to stop. I have tried the taking her back to her bed without speaking to her and looking at her but it does not seem to work she still thinks it is a game.

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  Reply by kassandra:
  February 4th, 2010 at 5:30 pm

  hi my name is kassandra i have a3 year old. when i had to swith him from a crib to a toddler was hard. he kept getting me up for weeks then a friend of mine told me to get hime to pck out a blanket to sleep with and when i did my son started to sleep again. the blanket was acting as a secerety blanket bc it is a new sleeping arangement. so give it time and she will sleep. just give it time trust me.

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  Reply by Darla Sutton:
  February 8th, 2010 at 11:40 pm

  I have the similar situation. My daughter is almost 3 yrs. old we have not put her in a bed yet because I know she will not stay in it because she does not stay in her crib. She gets out when ever we leave the room and I have tried the putting her back in without speaking to her and not looking at her but she still thinks it is a game so then I start staying in the room by her crib and she tries to get out with me right there and then I start laying her back down telling her it is time to sleep and we will do this for an hour to two hours a night and I have been on this program since Christmas and she is not wanting to put herself to sleep she starts to turn into the demon child and ask for daddy and finally my husband will come in and hold her for a few minutes and she will fall asleep in his arms and he will put her down and I know that this defeats everything I am doing. I established the bedtime routine and trying to do everything the book says but I have a stubborn child. Please Help.

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• 55 linda // Feb 3, 2010 at 4:59 pm

  I share a room with my 7 month old. I put her down between 7 and 9 when ever she seems ready. But then she will be awake crying in an hour. what can I do to keep her sleeping and is it not good to share a room. I don’t have another room.

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• 56 Amanda // Feb 3, 2010 at 7:56 pm

  Hi Dana

  My 6 month old daughter sleeps in our room in her cot. Until 1 week ago she went to bed at midnight as she would not sleep earlier than that in her bed and would then sleep most of the day away. On saturday we started to teach her to self settle and gave her a bedtime of 7pm and her night routine starts at 6 with a bath then a nurse and a story then bed. She is going down happily at 7pm but 40 mins later wakes and screams for 1.5 hrs then she settles again and wakes at 1am for a feed then settles back til 6.30am. I am just wondering what i am doing wrong for her to cry at the same time every night. Her routine is as follows 7am feed, 8am breakfast, 9am nap, 11am feed, 12pm lunch, 1pm nap, 3pm feed, 5pm dinner, 6pm bath, 7pm bed. I am trying to get her to nap at 4.30 but she won’t and i am wondering is she overtired and is this the problem? As i thought she should be getting better at night by now.

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• 57 Jennie // Feb 3, 2010 at 8:01 pm

  Jacob is 9 months. We have stoped nursing during the day and he still would like to nurse at night. We give him a bottle at bed time and through out the day. His first 4 months he was very collicy being up for three hours at a time crying would sleep for 20 minutes and then be awake crying again. He has gotten better but has a very hard time sleeping during naps and night. We have gotten him to sleep pretty well for his two naps a little over an hour each. At night he is up about every hour and a half. Crying wanting to sleep with us. Its exhausting. After about four or five times of him waking up I’m to tired and bring him in bed. We are trying your method of him being in his crib to fall asleep but it’s killing me to watch him cry. He cried one night for almost an hour with me right by his crib and patting him. Now it’s down to about 30 minutes at nap time but I have to rub his back or he cries and cries with me right by the crib. At night it takes about that long to get him to sleep at night as well. Even when he sleeps with us he is very restless and constantly waking up and only sleeps slightly better. Could crying be his mode to get to sleep? When does it start getting better?

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• 58 amanda // Feb 3, 2010 at 10:11 pm

  I know this isn’t exactly about sleep, as my 4 month old son has always slept very well but he is now turning over both ways and I can not get him to stay on his sleep positioner so he can stay on his back. He just gets off the positioner and is usually on his stomach when I check on him. I tried swaddling him so he can’t get his arms and legs out to flip over but he just gets hysterical if he can’t move his arms and legs. He will cry for an hour at a time, drift off for a while, and start crying and trying to get out of the swaddle.Is it just time to ditch the positioner? I worry about him sleeping on his stomach.

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• 59 Natalie // Feb 4, 2010 at 12:24 am

  Hey Dana, thanks for taking the time to read my comment. I’m having a big problem with my daughter Alissa who’s 11 months old. She is breastfed before she goes to sleep and is now left slightly awake as she is put into bed. Most of the time she is aware and cries but within 20 minutes she gives up and falls asleep, but she is still waking up 2-3 times a night. I’m so tired that for the past 3 months she sleeps in our bed, and I want it to stop! What do i do? Now I just leave her in the crib, play music and rub her back until she goes to sleep, though it may take almost an hour. Is this the right step to go about this?

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• 60 Sheryl // Feb 4, 2010 at 12:54 am

  Similar ? to Emma and Duncan. My 14 month old goes to bed at 7 pm and sleeps through the night (unless teething badly) but wakes at 6 am. I’ve noticed (on the rare day) when she wakes anytime before 5:30 am, she will go back to sleep after her bottle…. until 7:30 am. Should she therefore be able to sleep everyday until 7:30 am? If so, how do I push her wake up time to become later? Helpful info: She naps for ~ 1 hour everyday at daycare in a room full of other similar age babies (but usually has 2 naps on the weekends), her last feed at night is ~ 40 minutes before crib time, with lots of routine in between (books, diaper change, teeth brushing, sleep wear etc).

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• 61 Nic // Feb 4, 2010 at 4:25 am

  Hi Dana,
  I have a 10 month old boy who is a good sleeper at night but is an early riser. He goes to bed at 7pm, chats away to himself and is generally asleep by about 8/8.30pm. He then wakes between 5.30-6am. I don’t pick him up until 6.30am in the hope that he will go back to sleep but it is very rare that he does. He’s only getting between 9-10 hours sleep. His day sleeps are roughly at 8am for an hour, 11am for an hour and 3pm for 1.5 hours.
  How can I get him to sleep longer during the night and wake a bit later like 7am? Would the Sleep Sense program help me?

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• 62 Sonal Gadhok // Feb 4, 2010 at 8:02 am

  Hi Dana,

  I have a 15 month old daughter and she wakes up several times in the night. She is used to being rocked to sleep and in the night, wants to nurse when she gets up. How do you balance the line between leaving the baby in the crib to try to get her to sleep on her own and the fact that she won’t and gets overtired instead as her nap time is passing by.

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• 63 michelle wild // Feb 4, 2010 at 9:19 am

  Josh is 14 months old and wakes up in the morning anytime between 4.45 and 5.20 a.m. What can I do to make him sleep longer?

  Many thanks

  Michelle

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• 64 Beth // Feb 4, 2010 at 12:04 pm

  My 9 month ols son will fall asleep on his own when I put him to bed at night. He then wakes up at a minimum of 3 times a night and maximum of 12 times a night. He can’t seem to put himself back to sleep. My husband and I are exhausted. Sometimes he will wake up screaming as though he is in painand won’t stop. What can I do? Please help

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• 65 kassandra // Feb 4, 2010 at 5:21 pm

  hi my son timothy will be 2 february 22 and hi still not sleeping threw the nite. i have taken his sippy away and he still wakes up at nite.

  please help i am tierd.

  thanks kassandra

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• 66 Tricia Van Vugt // Feb 5, 2010 at 12:33 pm

  My son has had a good night sleep schedule since he was 3 months old and good nap schedule since about 6 months, but I have noticed many bumps in the road since 8 months when he would start screaming his head off at bedtime for at least an hour. By 9 months I realized it was because his bed time had crept later and so I moved it back to 6 pm and that seemed to do the trick for bed time. My big issue is early morning wake-ups which lead to a messed up nap schedule. No matter what time he goes to bed, he is up at 5:30 am and refuses to go back to sleep until I feed him and he will wait me out a long time whether I go in and tell him to go back to sleep or don’t go in at all. He usually will not go back to sleep after even a quick feed in the dark, so he wakes up exhausted and the whole day of naps is hit or miss. He is now 10 1/2 months old and because of the early wakeup I never seem to get the right time for his nap. So he is lucky to get one successful nap a day and so I have been putting him to bed earlier at night lately at 5 - 5:30 because he is usually exhausted and cranky by 4:30. Help! How do I fix his day schedule?

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• 67 shwetha // Feb 6, 2010 at 4:03 am

  hi,i am shwetha.my baby is 7 and half month old.she is not sleeping at night.i mean whole night……she will sleep morning 9 am to 12.30 pm.after lunch 3 to 7 pm.again 8 to 8.30.pls help me.and give good shedule…..

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• 68 Sunee // Feb 6, 2010 at 4:46 am

  My 5 month old son absolutely refuses to take naps during the day. If he does happen to nap it’s only for a very short time, 15-30 mins. This is leaving him extremely cranky and fussy by the evening. Any tips on how I can get him to nap?

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• 69 Janelle // Feb 6, 2010 at 5:24 am

  My son Adam will wake up in the night to eat and then takes hours to fall back asleep. How can we get him to eat and then learn that he needs to go back to sleep during the night?

  Thanks, Janelle

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• 70 Lisa // Feb 6, 2010 at 5:39 am

  My son is 7 weeks old - which I realise may be a little young for me to be worrying about (but after having 2 children who were non-sleepers, I am determined that this one will sleep!) but he has gone from sleeping from 2-3 hours every nap, to only sleeping for 30-40 minutes at a time. I then try to rock/pat him in his bassinette to get him back to sleep, which takes around 25 minutes, but then he will wake again at the 30 minute mark. He settles himself (usually with a pacifier), but even if it is in his mouth he will still wake up after 1/2 hour. Plus, on the rare occasion that he settles without assistance, he still wakes after 30 minutes…..
  Please help!!!

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• 71 Martha // Feb 6, 2010 at 8:18 am

  Hi Dana, I recently started using your speep sense program and am finding it wonderful although almost afriad to say that in case my son of 12 months decides to then later tonight prove me wrong!! My question is about how I will manage to maintain the good routine etc whilst we are on holdiy with some frined in a cottage. There will be 4 mums and 4 babies so I will be sharing a room with my son. I cm dreading it now as I am concerned he will want to come back into my bed or wake up /be disturned by the other babies ( of same ages) in the night? Please help! Am wishing I never agreed to go now! Thanks Martha

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• 72 Kristin Cooper // Feb 6, 2010 at 3:12 pm

  My 5 month old was sleeping good up until the last few weeks. He was sleeping through the night and if he did wake, he would cry for only 10 min and fall asleep without me having to go in to him. We have had the same routine since birth. Bath, bottle, story, rocking and bed. Over the past few weeks we have been working on putting him in his crib awake. He usually fusses 10 min and then falls asleep. We stopped swaddling him during naps and falls asleep on his own and sleeps for 45 min to an hour. My problem is at night, we still swaddle him and he breaks out of it in the middle of the night and can’t get himself back to sleep. The other night I went in and swaddled him again but he was fighting it. So then I swaddled him with one arm out and layed him back down. He cried and flung his arm all around. I went in to check on him every 15-20 min. If I patted him and left he cried harder. If I picked him up to calm him down, he got mad when I put him back in his crib. This went on for 2 hours. Finally I went and swaddled him and rocked him until he fell asleep. I did not know what else to do. I did not want to get back in the habit of rocking him or feeding him in the middle of the night. I am afraid if he doesn’t start off at night being swaddled, he will wake up only after 45 min of sleep.

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• 73 Janelle Ficek // Feb 7, 2010 at 5:31 am

  Hi Dana,

  My little boy, Adam, six weeks old, seems to have his days and nights mixed up. He sleeps off and on during the day, usually with one long nap in the morning, and then is up from about 2-6 am every night. But he’s not up and happy. He’s usually fussy and cries and seems to want to sleep but just won’t. It’s a pretty rough time and I was wondering if you had any tips to changing this around.

  Thank you,
  Janelle

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• 74 Jenny // Feb 7, 2010 at 11:56 am

  Dana,
  Hi, my 22 month-old is still having a very difficult time getting to sleep & staying asleep for both naps and nighttime. He slept in bed with us for 17 months then we moved to a new house and he started sleeping in his room. We put him in a toddler bed because at 12 months he threw himself over the railing of his crib and I was terrified to put him back in there. He also used to nurse to sleep every night & once he was weaned I really didn’t know how to get him down. I feel like I am losing my mind and my exhaustion is getting the best of me. Sometimes it takes 2 hrs to get him to bed and often he won’t nap at all. Please help me, I am at the end of my rope! Thank you so much,
  Jenny

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• 75 rahmat damilola // Feb 7, 2010 at 3:50 pm

  princess still find it difficult to sleep by herself if i find out she want to sleep and i put her down she will be crying till i carry her. Also she wakes two times in the night to nurse. please i need your advice on what to do thanks

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• 76 Libby Walker // Feb 7, 2010 at 7:16 pm

  Hi Dana,

  I began to try your program this morning with my 7 month old girl, Erin. She only has 2 very short naps through the day (no longer than 30 mins) and needs to be nursed for both of those. At night I have tried to get her into her cot, and she will last about an hour but then will cry so much it is scary until I pick her up and nurse her again. She can wake as much as every hour for a nurse. I am exhausted!! and have very little energy or patience for implementing the early stages of your program. I tried this morning for her first nap and stayed in the room trying to reassure her for over 40 mins and she was extremly distressed. She also constantly rolls and stands up in the cot and I try to put her back down each tiime as you suggest but she still continues to stand. I am stuck. I am sooo tired and am not sure that I can manage the first 3 days of the program. Help.

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• 77 Nastaja Watkins // Feb 7, 2010 at 9:18 pm

  Help! My daughter is now 2. She sleeps with me, still nursing and doesn’t sleep through the night. She still wants to feed 2 to 3 times during the night. I am totally exhausted. It’s really starting to ware on me. Do you have supper nanny’s number?

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• 78 Jenny // Feb 8, 2010 at 1:49 am

  Hi my son is 1 month old and as a lot parents I have the same problem of him waking up every 2hrs but I’m really confuse because I really think he wakes up because he’s hungry, I can tell because he try to eat his hands not sucking like a lot babies, and because he is having so much gas I can’t put him down in around 30 minutes because he would throw up( doctor’s order).. Around 5:30 - 6AM I have to rocking him for a long time so he would fall asleep for another 2hrs and sometimes less. I recently started putting him in his crib for naps and it worked for like 3 days but then he started waking up almost immediately and at night around 10 - 11pm he refuse to go sleep and cry a lot and I have to walk with him and do anything to calm him.. I know he is still small but I want to start now and don’t wait until is too late.. Please any advice..Thanks

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• 79 Natasha // Feb 8, 2010 at 5:03 pm

  I am mother of 1 year old twin girls. They have just been diagnosed with Asthma along with Allergies. They have YET to sleep through the night. They have their own beds but have not managed to sleep all night. I’ve tried to let them cry it out but that is so overwhelming for me considering I work full time and go to school full time. I NEED SLEEP!!!! Please help!

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