Comments on: I Need My Toddler OUT Of My Bed!

By: Monica Dimitri

Monica Dimitri — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 04:24:47 +0000

Hi Dana,
My daughter who is 27 months cries hysterically when my husband (her dad) puts her to sleep. She cries between 5-30 mins asking for mommie, and then she lets him read to her. If he comes into the bathroom when she is having a bath she already starts saying she doesn’t want dad to put her to sleep. My husband insists on putting her to bed eventhough she cries so hard because he feels she has to get used to him as well. It has been going on for about 6 months now and she still has the same reaction every time. It is extremely painful to hear her like this and I am worried it is doing more harm than good both to her and her relationship with her father. Please advise if it is ok for my husband to keep putting her to bed while she reacts so intensely. Thank you very much in advance.
Monica Dimitri

By: Juliana

Juliana — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 06:01:41 +0000

Hi there, my son Henry turned 2 this August. Since July, we have been having major sleep issues which coincided with changing his crib to a toddler bed. I had no immediate plans to make this switch so soon, but he was climbing out, so I made the switch sooner than expected. I definitely think he was physically not emotionally ready for this switch. He needs me to sit with him when he falls asleep. After I leave, he awakens frequently throughout the night. He wakes up, sees that I am not there and it becomes a vicious cycle. Recognizing this, we decided to put a gate up at the door and sort of let him cry it out by going to him in intervals…I thought we were making some progress but he learned that if he pulled hard enough he could knock down the gate..he also discovered that in some cases, he could climb the gate. We’ve tried several gates. I am so tired and I don’t know what to do. He needs us to fall asleep. It doesn’t matter if it’s our room or his, he needs to see us or be close to us. Please help. He is very persistant and stubborn. He is sleeping on the hallway floor right now as I type this because he wont stay in his bed!!!! Thanks!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 22:48:54 +0000

hi i have a 2 and a half year old son and a 19 month old boy. They both have their own bed in there room. i really dont have a problem with puting them to bed, it’s the waking up in the middle of the night wanting to be in my bed and wanting a cup. i started to give them a cup of water nd very little juice so it has some type of flavor. They both dont wake up at the same time but one will always wake the other. what can i do? me and my boyfriend are tired.

By: Silvana

Silvana — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 16:41:42 +0000

My son is going to be 3 years old in May. He has never been a good sleeper and now we have a baby who is 3 months and I am so afraid of making the same mistakes with the second one. My 3 year old is dependant on one of us to sit with him until he falls asleep. This is after a bedtime routine of bath, brush, 2 books, potty and deep breathing. He then goes to sleep at around 9pm but wakes up in the middle of the night wanting to come in our room. we allowed it for a while but now my husband has been walking him back to his room without talking or making eye contact. My husbands stays in the room with him until he is back to sleep but the problem is he wakes up and comes back later 3 and 4 times and returning to sleep can take up to 15 minutes each time. My husband is exhausted and I am taking care of the baby at night. Not sure if we should just walk out on him and hold the door as mentioned in one of your articles. I am afraid that my baby will have the same sleep problems. We will like for him to learn to fall asleep on his own and stay in his room. We let him keep the lights dim because he is scared of the dark and does not like a night light.
Please advice us on which method to use for a 3 year old. We have tried rewards but they don’t work. He says he is lonely in his room. I also wonder if it has anything to do with the baby staying in our room in a crib. Would it be to traumatic if we started walink out after saying good night or is he old enough to understand the new rules.

By: Jeneen

Jeneen — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 06:12:25 +0000

My son Kaden will be a yr. old this month and sadly I let him fall into a terrible habit. He is the youngest of my 3 children my other 2 are 11 and 8. I’m afraid I have spoiled him and won’t be able to fix it. First off he sleeps in his crib in our room, I’m contemplating moving him into my eight yr old room. Secondly, I’m a Sahm and my husband work weird hours 4 pm to 1am. I stay up until my husband gets home from work around 1:30 or 2. My son has a great attachment to both myself and my husband and so he has always stayed up until after daddy gets home before he will wind down and go to sleep. I’m so very ashamed to admit this but my son wakes up at 11am, 12pm eats then won’t take a until 2 or 3 sleeps 1 hour and then is up for lunch, I’ve tried to keep him ts from there to try to get him to bed but the truth is he has never been to bed earlier than 10 or 11pm. Anyway, he has dinner around 6 and does ts falling asleep around 7 and sleeping for an hour then back up and plays and often tries to take yet another nap at 9or10 which is a battle I sometimes who and sometimes not cause I know he won’t stay asleep. From then he stays up until after his daddy gets home and doesn’t go right to sleep he wants to play like Hes waiting for us to in to bed. He has recently started everytime I put him down whether it be for a nap or bed or play even he just screams and throws a huge fit which makes it even worse when I try to leave the room. I really want to get him on a responsible sleep schedule but don’t know where to start. Please help me undo the damage I’ve done. I hope its not too late. Jeneen