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Hi! I’m Dana Obleman, creator of The Sleep Sense Program. If you’d rather read than watch, I’ve transcribed the text of this video below.
This week’s question is from Stacy. She writes:
“My five-month-old goes to sleep around 8:00 p.m. I wake him around 10:00 p.m. to give him another feeding, to try to get him to sleep through the night. He wakes up wanting another bottle around 2:00 a.m. and then will sleep until 6:00 a.m. Should I continue with the 10:00 p.m. feed or let him sleep?”
That is a good question! There is a lot of talk about something called a dream feed, which is to feed your child while they sleep, right before you go to bed in the hopes that it buys you some extra time. In my experience, it really does not buy very much extra time. Occasionally, I will hear a success story from someone who dream feeds at 11:00 p.m. and the baby sleeps through until morning but more often than not, I hear exactly what you said. You give him a feed at 10:00 p.m. but he is still up at 2:00 a.m. At five-months-old, unless he is underweight, there really should be no reason that he needs to eat that much in the night, if at all.
There are a lot of five-month-olds who sleep straight through the night and I just find that dream feeding does not buy any extra time. As babies get older, their bodies learn to consolidate nighttime sleep. By four or five months, their body is very similar to that of an adult in that they go to bed and sleep through the night. I worry that dream feeding interferes with the consolidation of nighttime sleep and if you are dream feeding, you are running the risk of perpetuating a feed-to-sleep association.
No baby can actually eat in the deepest part of their sleep cycle. When you go in and take him out of the crib to nurse him (or even if you keep him in the crib and just stick a bottle in), he has got to come up to the surface. He might have been in his deepest rest but now he has to come up to his lighter sleep so that he can actually eat. When you stop, my worry is that he is still going to wake at 10:00 p.m. expecting a feed. For those reasons, I never suggest a dream feed and so I do think that it is wise to stop that 10 p.m. feed. I think it is better to just let sleep naturally consolidate; naturally follow its own structure.
Prepare yourself for the fact that he may wake anyway at 10:00 p.m. feeling like he needs a feed and, so I would just push through that. I am guessing from what you have written, that he falls asleep on his own at bedtime and so because he has that skill, it should transfer fairly quickly to the rest of the night. It might mean though that you go through a couple of nights where he cries for a bit and you can stay, or leave and check until he is back to sleep on his own. He just needs to get over feeling like he needs to eat at 10:00 p.m. and then if you want to hang on to the 2:00 a.m. bottle for awhile and see if he weans off it on his own, that’s fine.
Be careful with any night feed; I always suggest to parents that they make sure they are not using the bottle as a prop. He should not be falling back to sleep on the bottle. He should have his bottle and stay awake through the bottle to go back to the crib awake. That usually helps get rid of the nighttime feed because if it is not truly about hunger and it is not about a prop then there is no reason to keep waking up at 2:00 a.m. for a bottle. Certainly, by month six, if he has not weaned off the nighttime feed on his own, I would consider doing it for him. Again, as long as he is healthy and of a good weight, six months is a good time to start encouraging a baby to sleep all the way through the night.
Thanks a lot for your question Stacy, and sleep well.
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I’m not sure to do the dreamfeed for my 7mth old? He goes to bed at 7pm, then I df him at 10pm but I think it disturbs him as most nights when I pick him up he opens his eyes and looks at me. Then he might wake for his dummy any time between 130am and 330am. Then he wakes for chat or feed anytime from 454am to 530am. Should I feed him this early at 7mths? I thunk maybe the df is disturbing his sleep?
My daughter is 6 and a half months and self settles every night, she started sleeping 11-12 hours about 6 weeks ago, not every night but 4+ times a week and the other 3 times would be a quick feed between 4:30-6:30am and back to sleep. I have weaned her to have only 60ml at night feeds and she will settle herself after that.
She started waking again at all random hours of the night recently so my health nurse suggested a dreamfeed. i am very weary of this though and when i did it it only worked half the time,
we think she is teething but when she wakes in the night and cries she simply will not go back to sleep without her 60ml bottle. when i tried to settle her without it we were up for 3 hours while she screamed.
any suggestoins would be fantastic!
My daughter just made 6months. She can only fall sleep on her own if she is swaddled up and has a pacifier in her mouth. During the day, I put her in her swing for her naps. She’s use to falling asleep w/a pacifier and motion. she spits her pacifier out when she’s in her deep sleep. At nite, i place her in her crib at 7pm… swaddled up with a pacifier and she goes to sleep. She’s sensitive to any sudden noise from outside and wakeup during the nite…so we place her pacifier back in and she drifts back to sleep. My problem is getting her to sleep through the night b/c she is use to waking up every 3-4 hrs for a bottle. How do i wean her off of nightly feedings, having to be swaddled up and using a pacifier???
My 6 month old Jack is waking several times through the night and I am at my wits end!! This is a typical night:
6-7:00 Solids, bath, bottle, breast, sleep.
8:00-8:05 wakes very briefly and is rocked back to sleep
11:00-11:15 Wakes for feeding and goes back down
1:30-2:00 Same as above
3:30-4:00 Same but I take him into our bed
6:30-7:00 Wake for the day
what should I do???
my 17 month old wakes up around 11- 1 every night. why is it the same time.she wakes up screamimg like she is scared. what should i do?
My son is 3 1/2 months old. I am still rocking him to sleep. How can I get him to sleep on his own? He has been napping in a swing, but I am trying to get him to nap in his crib. What can I do to help him learn to go to sleep on his own during the day?
I have a 1 year old son name Marcus that goes to bed at 8.OOpm and wakes up at 10 pm,12 am,3 am, and at 6 am and he wont go back to bed unless he as a bottle. i dont know what to do, I’m 7 1/2 months pregant and i would like my son to sleep through the night before the baby is born. he also takes 1 to 2 napes a day depends how hes felling. Can you please help me.
I read your sleep sense program and we are on day 3 of training with the stay in the room method. We are having good progress and our 20 month old is sleeping well at night and during her nap. However, she has been waking up earlier and earlier, by half an hour each morning. I am concerned about this pattern and how to handle it? Also, she seems so tired during the day and evening, more than she ever used to be. I have heard when a person has been sleep-deprived, once you finally start to get more sleep you initially feel more tired as your body adjusts. Is this what is happening to our child, or is it the stress of the change? We have already moved up her naptime (noon) and bedtime by an hour (8pm)but now not sure she will even last till then. How do we stop this spiral?
I have 18month old twin boys who share a room. They used to sleep through the night without waking up but in the last few months have been waking up serveral times through the night and waking eachother up, they will only go back to sleep if they come into our bed….I end up bringing them to my bed then put them back in their crib once they are asleep only to have them wake again in an hour or so crying again for me to pick them up. What do I need to do, should I seperate them into different rooms or could it be because they sleep at their Grandparents 2 times every fortnight and they are out of routine or suffering from seperation anxiety ? I can not put them in their cribs to go to bed either, they jump up and down and play, talk to eachother or start crying for me to pick them up….we let them fall asleep on their fold out foam lounge then take them to their crib every night. Taking it’s toll….
Hey Dana,
I have a seven months old baby boy and unfortunately he has a problem with breething, he has eccess glands in his nose. He wakes up a lot during the night because of his stuffed nose and everytime he wakes up I nurse him so that he gets back to sleep. I tried to leave him crying until he sleeps but soon after he sleeps he wakes up again because of his stuffed nose. please tell me what to do.
Single Mom, 6 year old…father sees son every other weekend and three weeks spread through the year. I’m in a new relationship and he has many ideas about “changing” how I do things with my son. James wakes us up frequently in the middle of the night saying that he’s “scared” and wants me to “fix it”. (I used to let him sleep with me or I’d stay with him until he fell asleep. My new boyfriend thinks that I need to teach him how to sooth himself and go back to sleep without getting us up every night. I realize at 6 that he should be able to do more, but I don’t know how to implement something new. I usually give in when he cries or says he’s scared. I keep telling my boyfriend that he’s “only” 6…he says that I need to make him more independent because he IS 6 and ready. It’s putting a strain on our relationship…what do I do. I feel guilty when my little boy is scared and cries.
Well I’m sure you have had simillar situations as mine but I feel like the only one..I have had my 3rd son in Dec he is 8wks and doesn’t like to sleep at all he doesn’t like to just lay and be happy he doesn’t really like much at all except being fed bottle or breast he doesn’t mind as long as someone is holding him and feeding him he is happy.. I started giving him extra in a bottle becuse I was feeding him for 3 hours and he would sleep for 20mins (not a great routine !!).So yer what do you do with a baby like mine who doesn’t like much and really doesn’t like sleep …Most he sleeps is 1 hour and that is a record… Do I let him scream his lungs out or hold him till he is 13yrs hehehe.. help !!!!
Hi Dana
Harley is now 9 months old and has not yet slept through the night. He is a very happy content baby he has two sleeps of about 45 mins through out the day and is ready fo bed at about 7 pm. He eats well and is breast fed (although i have introduced a bottle at 2.30 pm)
which has made no difference to his sleep.
I feed him as part of his bed time routine but He goes into his cot awake at this time he normally settles very quickly to sleep. However he wakes at 10.30 normally settles again quickly with reasurance (back rub) then again at about 1am Normally fed at this time and then wakes again at 4am then either fed again or I put him into sleep with me. just because I need to sleep he then goes until about 7.30.
this is the routine and I am desperate to break these habbits. However after 9 months of diturb sleep I have little energy.
thank fully my 3 year old sleeps through the night generally and has done scince he was 6 months.
please help my change these habbits….
Hi Dana, my son now 3 and 2 months is still playing up at night,when putting him to bed he will often say that he does not feel very well or that he need another wee. Once asleep he is ok until the first wake up at maybe midnight and there after probably twice more. He will again ask for milk or for us to go in a sit with him. As we are desperate to stop this, do we put him to bed and then say we are NOT coming in again until the morning no matter how hard it gets and how much he screams and bangs on the door dont go in to his bedroom or do we keep going in! Im so tired i dont know what to do. HELP!
My 9 month old boy won’t sleep without the breast. It is the only way to put him to sleep for naps or at night. I feel that this is really distrubing him from having a full, good night sleep. At night (and sometimes also for naps) he sleeps really lightly and often wakes up every hour, and the only way to settle him back to sleep is by nursing him. To make matters worse, he sleeps in my bed as I simply don’t have the stamina to get up every hour to nurse him and put him back to sleep, so this way he ends up nursing all night! How do I break this feed-sleep cycle and get him to sleep on his own without the breast? Should this be done overnight or is there a gentler way to break this habit, with some preparatory ground work before ‘d-day’?
Hi
My 13mths old goes to daycare from 7am to 4pm 5 days a week ( Im a working mum ) the problem is she wont sleep for more than 20 min a day for them. the cares and my self have a program in place for her ( same as at home )
7 am drop off play to 7.15 eat drink and play
8.30 bed fight for 1 hour wont sleep then nod for 20 min
11 am lunch and play
1.30 – 2.30 fight her to go to sleep but wont sleep unless geting held
3pm feed and then I pick her up at 4pm
5pm dinner and bath play book and then to bed at 6.30-7pm
I dont rock or hold her to sleep but she likes me to be in the room so she can go to sleep
All this works well at home but not at day care is there a problem with this or not. I need some ideas on how to make this work at daycare
Hi Dana,
My three month old daughter Isla, sleeps through the night which is fantastic, but neither myself or my husband are able to get her to fall asleep without a lot of crying, we take her to her crib at 8pm but she is still crying for comforting as late as 10pm. I would love to establish a bed time routine as you have suggested, but Isla has extremely sensitive skin so we are not able to bath her every night, which i think is disprupting the signals to tell her to go to sleep. i’m desperately trying not to resort to giving her dummies or my breast to help her sleep but i don’t know what else to do? she was such a passive newborn, the recent temper she displays at night is now begining to surface in the day at nap times, she is so confused and i dont know how help her. Please help any advice would be greatly appreciated, i feel we have ruined are beautiful little girl and i desperately want to put right what i have done wrong.
Thankyou Louise
My son Franklin who is 15months old is not wanting to sleep in his cot. We tried controlled crying and thought we were getting some where but we were wrong. Now he does not want to be in his cot at all. He goes mad and is able to get out of the cot with the bars up and all. It seems like since we did the control crying things have got worse. Don’t know what to do any more.
Hi, I have a 20 month old son, who has been underweight since he was 4 months old. Due to his lack of weight I continued to feed him during the nights and never felt I could pursue stopping it while he was still not gaining well. This last month he has started eating his solids better and managed to gain half a LB so I am very tempted to try and stop these nights feeds as I am tired, so tired! He goes to bed in his own bed, my husband puts him down along with our 2 other boys. They all share a room. He usually wakes somewhere between 10:30 and 11:30 for a ‘big’ nursing. Then he’ll wake around 3am for another nursing session and depending on the night it is then on and off til he wake for the day which varies between 6 and 7. Due to severe fatigue I bring him into my bed at the 3am feeding or whatever time it is after that 1st feed. His nights are worse when he is teething. Please help me choose the best way to help him. I don’t want to put him through anything traumatic, rather gently teach him to sleep through the night.
My 8 month old naps at around 9am and again around 2 or 3pm. Each nap lasts about 1 1/2 to 3 hours. She has an 8oz bottle at 4:30am and will sometimes return to sleep until 6am. She has breakfast at 7am, lunch at around 11am, an 8oz bottle at 1pm, supper at 5pm and is in bed between 6 and 7pm. She gets up anywhere from 8-11pm for an 8oz bottle. Five out of 7 nights a week she will wake up at 2am crying and want to stay up and play for 2 hours before going back to sleep. By the time she goes back to sleep our 3 year old is up and ready to start his day. Since birth he has gotten up at 4:30am and will not return to sleep. Needless to say we are exhausted. Please help!
THANK YOU! We have followed advice from your sleep videos with our 15 month old son Jack. We had been putting Jack to sleep in his crib – located in our room – and when he woke we let him finish out the night with us. He had been waking in our bed four times a night to nurse. Your advice helped successfully move him into his own room! This was no small task as we had to clear out the guest room for our 7 year old daughter, so Jack could have her old room.
My only remaining issue that two weeks later, Jack wakes only once during the night, but is genuinely hungry for a feeding. While we are thrilled that he’s not up every 2 hours like before, I still need sleep! Any advice? We do feed him a yogurt right before bed to try to fill his belly, but even that isn’t working!
I am having trouble with the change from a crib to a bed…Ryan wakes up about 2:30 every night and comes into my room to sleep with me. If I try to return him to bed, he will sleep for about 2 hours and then wake again and come get me…how do I stop this?
Dana, I’m afraid I have created a monster! My daughter is 17 months old and sleeps great through the entire night. My problem is I spend at least 30 minutes, and often over an hour, trying to get her to go to sleep. I have to hold her until she falls asleep. She has never been receptive to lying in her crib until she falls asleep on her own. I’ve tried leaving the room, waiting a few minutes, then returning, etc. This does nothing but make her more hysterical. She does not calm down at all when I re-enter the room to soothe her. The only way she will stop crying is if I eventually pick her up again. I have tried this for hours and she never gives in. Does your program address how to get an older child to learn to go to sleep on their own??
Thank you!
Hi Dana,
My 9 month old son still wakes up 1-3 times a night for a feeding. We put him to bed at 6:30 at night. We put him down awake and he falls asleep on his own. For quite a while he was only waking up once a night at about 3:30 and then wouldn’t wake up until 6:00 or 6:30 the next morning. I kept feeding him at 3:30 because I thought he needed it because he eats dinner at 5:00 and usually doesn’t nurse again before bed. Lately he as been waking up at around 10:30 or 11:00 at night and then again between 2:30 and 3:30. If he has dinner at 5:00 and I am nursing should I still feed him around 3:30 or should he be able to make it all night? He won’t go back to bed even with rocking if he doesn’t eat.
Thanks,
Lacy
Hi Dana,
I think your doing a great job with your videos, thanks!
My daughter Cateana is 11 months now, she puts herself to sleep at bed time, between7 and 7.30pm. After 3am she might wake two or even 3 times randomly, for different, little reasons that are not consistant(? discomfort, wants a snuggly or something),I do not nurse her, she does not mind. I just pull her banket up and say good night, she goes back to sleep. But she still wakes! Controlled crying does not seem to work for me in this situation, also not wanting to wake her sister and father.
Cheers
My son is 7 months old and cannot go to sleep without me breastfeeding him. He wakes up every 2 hours at night and I end up feeding him or else he won’t stop crying. During the day, he gets really tired every 2 -3 hours and wants a nap, but will only go to sleep if i feed him. Help. How can i break this sleep – feed association and how can i get him to sleep through the night.
Hi Dana,
I have a 5 year old daughter that will not go to sleep in her room or stay there at night. If she does go to sleep in her room she always gets up and gets into bed with her father and me. This keeps us up during the night and is causing problems with everyone. I don’t feel she is resting well and neither are we. Do you have any suggestions? I’ve done everything I can think of and nothing is working.
Thanks,
Angela
Hi Dana,
I have a 4 month old baby who cries and needs hushing and patting from me to fall asleep. How can I teach her to self soothe? Should I give her objects like a toy etc. At the moment she doesn’t seem to take anything. Should I keep encouraging it?
my daughter is 91/2 months old she had been sick for some time so she had been waking at 12am at 3am 6am and then sleeps to 9 0r ten know i can’t get her to sleep through the night i’m very tiered and know almost always fighting with her father because i’m excausted and he works at 3am so he needs he’s sleep…
hi dana,could you please give me some advice,my son thomas wakes up every single nite and if my husband goes into his room he wont settle until i go in .he his 3 years old .i thought he would have grown out of this by now
thanks
claire
england
My problem is exactly the same as joumana. My doughter is 10 month old, she doesnt sleep till I nurse her and she wakes up several time at night(at least 4). I did the same as joumana but she wants to nurse. she cry and sit in her crib untill I pick her up. My husband dosnt support me. I feel so depress and Im going to be sick. She is theeting.
I dont know what should I do.
Please help me.
Thanks
My 11 month old son used to sleep through the night at 5 months old after we used the extinction method. He goes down for his naps and at bedtime, awake and falls alseep on his own. I put him to bed at 6:45pm and get him up at 6am, however he wakes at least once a night and cries for about an hour. When I go to him in the morning his diaper is fine, he’s not ill, and I don’t hear him snoring. I don’t know what’s causing this midnight waking. How can I help him sleep through the night peacefully?
Hi, Dana. I have been following your weekly videos for some time, and really like what you have to say. I have a 13 month old baby girl who is STILL nursing… having trouble with weaning. Our living situation dictates that she sleep in our bedroom, in her own crib, but by one am, usually, she is in bed with us, and will not stay asleep without constantly nursing. I am to the point of exhaustion. Any suggestions?
Thanks,
sleepy mom in WA state
I received your book as a gift when my son Alexander was born, and I must say that it was more useful than any other gift I received! Alexander has been sleeping though the night since he was 5 weeks old (bar one time when he was sick) and we managed to get him off the pacifier a few weeks ago in two nights!!! The reason why we decided to get him off the pacifier was because he would take very short naps, and in your book you mention that babies who use binkies normally take shorter naps. However, I have not seen any improvement as far as the nap length is concerned. Al little bit of background: Alexander goes to bed at around 7:30PM and wakes up at around 6:15AM. He then goes into the cycle of change, eat, play, sleep every three hours. He eats every three hours, but will not go to sleep less than two hours after he has woken up. Which means that he only sleeps for 30-45 minutes maximum becuase he wakes up hungry. I have tried to delay his nap, and this does not work. On a separate occassion, I have tried to delay his feeding (bottle) but also did not work. I’m thinking that this is the way that he is wired… am I doomed to months of not having an hour to myself during the day?
Hello Dana, thanks for all the videos and tips that you are all sending us. I really appreciated.My little princesses Grace is 12 months old. We finished night bottle feedings very early at 5 months-old.She is still wakes up once or twice for giving her dummy back to her. I started pulling dummy after she falls sleep, that didn’t help. she sometimes falls a sleep by herself or by rocking her. I am tired really confussed. I know mistakes are all what I am doing. Any help is appreciated. thank you
ipek
Hi Dana, My baby, Markos is 4 and half months old and has been sleeping the whole night from about 1 and half months of age. But since recently he gets up about 2.30 a.m. and will not go back to his cot, and I have to nurse him and hold him till morning. When he did sleep at night he slept from midnight to 7.00 or 8.00 a.m. Even when he used to sleep at night he used to always forst fall asleep on the breast. On your advise I have now brought forward his sleep routine and put him in the cot awake. But as soon as I put him he cries and the moment i pick him up he stops. My question is, how long should I let him cry, and most importantly how long should I hold him when I pick him up, taking in to account that the moment I pick him up he is all calm! What happens at the moment is he cries i pick him up and he is calm, so the next minute I put him back in the cot and the next minute he cries, so I pick him up and it goes on like that! Please help. Many many thanks!!
Hi there,
I am absolutely desperate for a full night of sleep! My 19 month-old daughter had some health issues starting at 6 months of age and what worked for us at that time was co-sleeping so that I could nurse her at night as needed. She had a lot of tummy distress and this was the only thing that seemed to help her. We ended up on a mattress on the floor and she hasn’t been in a crib since then. Her health issues have now resolved but she will not fall asleep without nursing, will only go for naps and bedtime for me, except at day care where she falls asleep on her little cot by herself. While she is sleeping a little better at night, she is still up 3-4 times to nurse and wakes up if there is no warm snuggly mom in bed with her. My daughter is a lovely, very strong-willed little bug and I have no idea where to start to get her falling asleep on her own, and willing to go for naps and bedtime with someone other than me. Please help!
We have an 21 month old, who still doesn’t sleep through the night. We have tried every sleep training method and he still will fight going to bed for hours and hours every night. But, he will go immediately to sleep in his crib and sleep through the night, if one of his grandparents put him to sleep, but he will not go to sleep if I or my husband put him to sleep – he puts up a huge fight and will wake up at least once during the night. So, we know he can put himself asleep and stay asleep, but how can we get him to continuously go to bed in his crib on his own?
hi, i need help! my 1 year old child is still breastfeeding i tried to stop but i dont have any support to stop him. so i carried on.he has his last feed at 9pm and sllep till 12.ooam and he wakes every hour. he doesnt want to sleep in the cot.
help plzzzzzzzzz
My 11 month old does not sleep through the night. He did do it for a couple of weeks when he was about 3-4 months old. I then moved him from a Moses Basket to a cot and since then he has never slept through. I put him to bed awake and he falls asleep on his own (albiet with a pacifier) with no problem. The problem is keeping him thhere. Recently, the situation has become worse as now he is able to stand up in his cot. He stands up and screams and everytime I lay him back down, he stands up again. In desperation I have given in to allowing him in my bed (which I don’t want) as it is the only way that I am able to get any sleep. I thought by this age that he would have settled down. How can I break this cycle and encourage him to sleep through the night?
hi my son is 30 months old and im having real problems getting him not only to sleep before 12 mid night, but also to sleep in his own bed. he used to sleep all through the night but the last year he just hasnt been sleeping properly.
when i do get him to go in his own bed i have to stay with him till he falls asleep which can take hours, when he does fall asleep he wakes within half hour of me leaving the room and spends hours just crying and screaming. which leads to him coming in to our bed. finally when he is sleeping he’s then waking 3 to 4 times a night. im expecting another baby in 5 months and really need some advice to get this problem sorted, even my neighbours have started complaining about him, telling me i should be able to get him in to bed. and that he’s disturbing them through the night. thats how much he screams when trying to put him to bed.
one more thing when ever he stays at his grandparents he’s asleep by half 7 and sleeps all night till 8 o clock the following morning.
help what am i doing wrong.
Dear Dana,
my daughter Sara is now 4 months old. She’s sleeping through the night with one waking for brestfeeding and that’s all great. She goes to bed between 7 and 7:30pm, as you suggests… but now there are some questions:
> for the last three days she is soooo tired aroung 6:30pm I can hardly give her routine and she almost sleeps on my breast (I don’t let her) – she falls asleep in an instant but then sleeps 40-50min and then wakes up, cries for 20-30min and then falls again to sleep for the night. Why is she waking and crying and what can I do?
> she wakes up at 6am (and falls asleep at 7-7:30pm). Isn’t she supposed to sleep 12hrs throough the night? What can we do?
> naps are a little bit more difficult then nighttime. Usually she can fall asleep (first nap is the easiest, she falls asleep without crying) but there is no rule – sometimes she sleeps 30min, 45min or hour and a half. It’s usually 45min. And by the evening we have gone through our 3 naps, she is tired and then the situation within the first question develops. What can I do to teach her to sleep hour and half and what to do with the situation?
Thank you very very much!
Best regards,
Jelena
Hi my baby is 8 months old. she used to sleep through the night till she turn 4 months.
Now, she needs me around so that she goes to sleep. Every two hours she wakes up for a feed. she sleeps around 8.30pm – 7.30am. I used to nurse her till 15 days back, now i have started giving her bottle feed. Yet she wakes up every two hrs for the feed. She cries till i don’t give her bottle. At night she goes to bed with out bottle, but in the middle of the night, she cries for bottle feed
Is it ok, if she has bottle milk every two hrs??
Pl suggest.
Thanks
Our wonderful 5 month old daughter is a good sleeper. We get her down after our night time routein at about 6.30/7.00pm. She make wake 1 or 2 times and self settles and then at 3.30/4.00am she is wide awake so I give her a feed. She will then sleep until 7.30/8.00am. HOWEVER she only know how to get to sleep initially with the sleep prop of nursing. This is the same for day time naps (she has three, 1-2 hour naps in the day) . I know the main purpose of the sleep program is to teach babies to sleep though the night. Have you used the program to elimate the INITIAL prop. I just don’t want to loose sleeping through the night by using the wrong program. Many Thanks.
From Katie’s Mum, Perth, Australia
I have a 14-month-old daughter. We moved to a different house when she was 9-months-old & didn’t have room for a crib until now so she shared bed with me and her father. I’ve tried to lay her in her crib to put her to sleep but all she does is scream so I end up rocking her to sleep only to have her wake up at 2:00 every morning and she screams then too. She has been bottle broke since her first birthday and slept fine in my bed. Is she scared of her new crib and will she ever get used to it? Nap time is even worse. She fights sleep all the time.
I have 17 month old twins, who have been in a good nighttime routine since they were about 10 months old. Jammies, snack, brush teeth, read then tuck in. Almost five nights a week one of my angels decides to cry, a lot and hard before falling to sleep. I can handle it for about 20 min or so but then it gets heartwrenching. Sometimes it stops and sometimes I end up going in and rocking the crying toddler for a little while. They share a room because of house limitations and I know my little girl will wake up if her brother cries too long. It does not work the other way around though. It has been a long time, shouldn’t they be done crying before sleep?
My son will be turning two in two weeks.
He has been sleeping throught the night since
he was 8 months old. At this time i
successfully sleep trained him with the help of
an excellent sleep doula. However, just recently
he is beginning to have some night wakings and beginning to
wake up at 5.30 am. Is this due to a transition
from a crib to a toddler bed? Or is it due to the fact that
He still has two naps a day. Is it too much sleep through the day?
His first nap is at 9.30 to 11.00 and his second nap is from
3.00 to 4.30. I would like to see a later morning waking (7.00 am),
And only 1 nap in pm after lunch. How can i achieve this?
Hello!
You mentioned in your blog that a 6 month old should start sleeping through the night without any feedings. My daughter just got over a bad cold and we have finally got her falling asleep on her own again. Should I give her a few weeks of sleeping well on her own before I attempt to take the PM feed away?
Thank You In Advance!
My husband deosn’t support me at all!
My son is 11 months old. He doesn’t sleep till i nurse him.
He wakes up at least 4 times a night, so last night I decided that no more nursing at night.
What I did I put him in his cot. He started to cry and every time he stood up I lie him back I kept doing that for 1/2 houre. really it did not work I was confused should I leave him by himself so he would know that I’m not going to nurse him or should I stay with him.
In the end I lied next to him in his cot he cried about 1 houre before he slept by his own.
he woke up at 1:00 am and started to cry.
My husband was angry because he has work in early morning. And we had an argument. He just wont me to nurse the baby so he go back to sleep and also i have another two kids so if i leave him crying everyone will wake up. So I nursed him and again at 3:00am and at 5:00am ..and….
What sould i do to make him go back to sleep by his own?
Pleas help
I am a nanny for two 10 month old twins who were 25 weeks premature. Both are never in bed before 9:30 pm. Morgan is starting to sleep through the night but Hanna is up at least two or three times a night. Do you have any tips for gas? They almost never go back to bed without a bottle also. Or a swaddling or walking around for about ten to fifteen minutes.
Thanks,
Alice
Dear Dana,
The last month I just cant get my 2 and a half year old to take his daytime nap. We always layed on my bed Id read him 3 stories and then he would fall asleep. Now he gets up all the time ad go out of the room or even play with what ever he finds in the room (none of our doors can lock and he opens them),I grab him put him next to me and say to him its resting time and then its all tears. Maybe he would finally fall asleep after a hour or more. If he doesnt sleep then he is so tired by 17h00 that he somestimes falls asleep and then wakes up at nine…..He goes to daycare 3 days a week and there he sleeps from 11:30 till 14h00 I just dnt know anymore….( Because he wakes up at about 7:30 he wont lie down before 14H30, the days that he goes to daycare he has to get up at 6am)
Thanx lenie
Hello my name is Kim and i am the mother of a wonderful 2years old boy who sleeps in bed with me and my husband. It was fine but now he is getting bigger and needs more space and so do we. The problem is that he has always follen asleep stroking my hair (he is not interested in a wig as a substitute) and with me by his side to put him to sleep. If i get up he will wake up and come get me . He does not want to sleep alone.
How do i get him to sleep in his bed by himself in a gentle manner? I do not beleive in the Ferber method.
Thank you for the attention to my situation
Kim
Hi! My 5 month old daughter does great with naps and bedtime, going to sleep on her own, and sleeping all night. However, she only sleeps well in her crib. When we’re out and about running errands (grocery shopping, etc) sometimes I run into her nap-time, but she will not nap while we are out. She will fall asleep in the car in her carseat on the drive home, but this only frustrates her (and me) more when we get home and she wakes up from her 15 minute cat-nap. Do you have any suggestions for how I can help her when we do have to be out during her nap time? Thanks so much!
My son is almost 8 months old and he has a hard time going to sleep on his own as well as staying asleep. I am still up every 2 -3 hours and his daytime naps rarely last past an hour. He often also wakes screaming and kicking. I don’t know how to help him sleep longer. I fear he isn’t getting his daily requirement of sleep. What should I do?
hi, Dana
I am having the same sort of problem as Kristen. My son Julian is now 8 months old and has gone back to a newborn phase. He wont go to sleep unless i rock him or breastfeed him , and I dont want to do this anymore! He goes to bed between 8-9pm and wakes around 11pm, then 2-3am, then again about 5am then again at 6-6.30am. I am only feeding him at the 2-3am time but the other times im having to get up and rock him and re-wrap him, as he still wont sleep without being wrapped. I am going back to work in 3 weeks and want him to be able to sleep through, and he was doing this about a month ago, but now has all changed again! He has been teething and I know this interferes with their routine, but i just want some advice on how to push through the teething phase and get him to sleep through again.
I also have the problem of trying to get him onto a bottle. I have been trying for about 4 months and he just wont have it at all! He turns away, pushes the bottle away with his hands or just plays with it. He has drank through a sipper-cup, but still tends to push that away aswell, and doesnt like the taste of formula. How long will this continue and when i do go back to work, is it ok for him to have just 1 feed from me at lunch time until i finish work at 3pm, if i feed him at 5.30am??
thankyou,
kellie
My daughter is 11 months old. Before she was 5 months we would put her in her crib awake and she would fall alseep by herself adn sleep through most of the night. Now she has to be held or rocked to sleep. After being put in the crib, she wakes up a couple hours later. I rock her and put her back to sleep. She wakes up again and wants me to hold her again. I have to hold her for a very long time before I can put her down again and sometimes I just end up falling a sleep with her in the rocking chair. I really don’t want her to keep this habit and I want her to be able to sleep on her own again. Is it too late to change her habit and to get her off the binky?
Hi Dana! I weaned my 15 months son two weeks ago.He does not go to sleep no his own.I have to sit beside his bed and sing for more than half an hour andhe still weaks during the night 3-4 times and cries.He stops just when is in my bed. what should I do because I have 15 months never sleep at least 6 hours during the night.
I have a two part question. My 5 month old daughter is not sleeping thru the night. She was until about a month ago and then became attached to her pacifier. Everytime it fell out she would cry for it. I am now on my 2nd day of taking the paciefier away cold turkey. It’s been rough, but I’m not giving in. Will it get better? I’m also having trouble with her falling asleep on her own. She wants to be walked around and sung to until she falls asleep. How do I get her to not cry when I put her down for naps or bedtime? How do I get her sleeping thru the night without wanting me to sooth her back to sleep? Please HELP!!!
I have problems very similar to Lee-ann. My son Dominic is 21 months old, and started sleeping through the night at about 11 months. We are expecting a daughter at the end of March so we have moved Dominic out of his crib to make way for his sister.DJ made the transition to a ‘big boy bed’ without issue and all was fine and well for 2 weeks. Then he started getting out of bed, and kept climbing out when we repeatedly put him back. Then when I thought we had that licked, he wanted Mommy, and only Mommy to lay in bed with him until he fell asleep. I didnt have a problem with that, but my wife wasnt too fond of it. 3 weeks or so later, a month and a half ago, he started waking up in the middle of the night to come join his parents in their bed. I knew better than to let this go on, but I slept through the first few times, and this has now become common practice. Now, my sleep is greatly affected, my expectant wife is more than tired all the time, and Im a little worried about the new baby. Can we get Dominic back in his bed, and sleeping through the night in the next 7 weeks before his sister is born? Should I send a $47 payment now to get my question answered? At this point I would be happy to pay that twice. Thank you for your time,
Justin
To Diandra, ive noticed u have been writing on this quite a lot for help, but Dana doesnt actually answer every question that anyone writes here, she just chooses one per week to answer. Just so u know because it sounds like u are waiting for a reply and most likely she wont! sorry, coz it sounds like u need the help, maybe think of purchasing the program?
I have 8 month old twin girls who from a month old slept in separate rooms as they kept waking each other up. my one twin sleeps 7 till 7 but my other has a feed at 10.30pm then sleeps until 7. i would love them to share a room but am scared they just wont sleep. how can i get them back together without too much disturbance?
to lee-ann from wellington: i am in wellington myself, and could offer some help? email me on rshataylor@hotmail.com
My 6 month old still wakes up 3 – 4 times a night for feeding. I just started solids, but up until then she was exclusively breast fed. The doctor said she is in the 10-25th percentile for her weight. He recommended that I continue the night feedings since she is smaller. What do you suggest? I don’t know if I should cut out the feedings since she is so small.
My daughter is almost eight months old now and although she sleeps fairly well she wakes between 4am and 5am each morning. If she wakes closer to 4am she will drop back off to sleep but only until 5-5.30am. if she wakes at 5 she generally stays awake in her cot until I go into her room. Charlotte goes into her cot awake every evening at 6.30-7pm. I have tried popping in and out of her room to stop her crying until she eventually drops back off, however this usually takes about 40 minutes and she will only sleep for a futher 30 minutes. It almost feels pointless to make her go back to sleep. I never nurse Charlotte to sleep anytime even naps, nor does she have a dummy(passifier). As far as I am concerned she doesn’t have any sleep assosiations which are preventing her to return to sleep. Please help.
My 3.5 month old son cries a lot before being put into his cot. For a few weeks now he has been off his feed (he is breastfed). Is there any evidence that this programme is affecting him?
Hi Dana,
My question/problem is very related to Lee-Ann’s.
My daughter is 24 months old now and just a few months ago she has started asking to fall asleep in the bigger bed beside her crib and she won’t fall asleep unless we sit or lay down by her.
That could take from 15 mins to an hour sometimes.
(The bigger bed beside her crib is usually used for getting her dressed after bathing and to keep some of her stuffed toys.
Even though most of the time she would sleep well during the night or during her day naps, this new routine became a real inconvenient for me as it leaves me with less and less remains of the day.
Many thanks,
Adina
Hi there, my 4 month old goes down for naps during the day without a fuss, sometimes sleeping for up to 2 hours at a time. When it comes to bedtime we have a routine which has been place for months, bath, book and then put to bed (all by daddy). Just recently he has become increasingly difficult to settle, becoming more and more upset and overheated until we are forced to get him up, feed him and put him back down. Are we trying to put him to bed too early, does he just need an extra feed (I am still feeding 3 hourly), or should we let him ‘cry it out’?
hi my daughter madison is 11 months old she slept straight through from 6 weeks untill she was 7 months then she constantly wakes 4-5 times a night she is having 2 naps a day about 1 1/5 hrs and goes to bed at about 7pm she has her last milk feed at 6-6.30pm then goes straight to bed and settles by herself with her comforter an hour or two later she wakes crying sometimes all she needs is a reasurrence then goes back to sleep and will repeat that cycle nearly every hour other times she is wide awake for the next two hours. she always wakes at 7.30am. Ive tried putting her to bed early but she falls asleep downstairs ive tried to leave her to cry for 5minutes but she continues to cry. I have been to the doctors they said that is what children do which is no help. she did have reflux but since 6 months has not had any problems but i have tried to prop the cot up a bit thinking maybe she had a bit of reflux. I believe that it could be habit but how and where to start with breaking this problem i am so tired and need help i dont know what else to try.
Hi there,
Here’s a few details before my questions:
- Our son is 6.5 months
- He weighs just about 19 pounds
- We’ve started solids
- He has slept in his crib since birth
- He falls asleep sometimes on his own but I expect he often falls asleep on the breast at bedtime
- We have a bedtime routine and have been doing it since he was about 3 weeks old
- He wakes to feed 4 or 5 times at night
- We use a white noise machine
- Naps are still a struggle but I think it’s might be best to focus on one issue at at time
Here’s my question:
After reading your program, I suspect our son associates feeding/sucking with getting back to sleep at night and after 6 months of this I’m so tired I think I’m losing my mind. What do we start with to help him to learn to soothe himself to sleep? Wean all night time feeds, wean some of them, make sure he’s always awake when put in the crib. Before becoming a parent I like to think I was a reasonably intelligent person but at the moment I’m not sure if I’m coming or going and would love some guidance. I’m not terribly excited about a lot of crying as it’s very difficult for me to hear our son cry. Thanks. Michelle
Hi my daughter will be 3 in April and she still wakes up every night no matter how we change her naps / routine ect .She wakes between 12 and 1pm every night .We can get her to go to sleep in her bed but its a screaming fit for half hour preceeded by 1-2 hours of reading followed by waiting till she goes to sleep. I am that tired she always beats me and ends up in our bed any suggestions??
What about babies that “cat” nap? Jason does not sleep well thru the night and his daytime naps are sometimes as short as 20 minutes, but he doesn’t sleep OFTEN during the day and it’s always a struggle. How do we get him to take longer naps and do so without crying for an hour first and to sleep through the night? He’s almost 8 mos old. Thanks.
Hello,
My daughter is a beautiful and intelligent 5 year old who does not enjoy sleeping very much! Since she was born her sleep time has been short and not so sweet. We have worked hard over the last few years to get her to fall asleep on her own and night. She is now an expert at falling asleep all by herself at the start of the night after our routine. The problem we are having is that she wakes up at least once during the night and comes to our room. Sometimes we will go through the process of escorting her back to her room and putting her back to bed for a period of two to three hours in the middle of the night!
We are in need of some advice on what to do at this point. The environment she falls asleep in is the exact same as it is during the night so we cannot understand why she cannot put herself back to sleep once awakened.
Please help!
Thank you sooooo much. Your website is fantastic!
Sherri
My son, Zachary, is 4 months old and I’ve gotten him into the bad habit of “feeding” him to sleep. Now he only eats when on his way to sleep and I don’t know how to get him to sleep without it. How do I get him to sleep without feeding him? I’ve tried and it just results in a crying fit and then he ends up even more awake.
My 5 month old daughter fights sleep with everything she has got. I rock her she cries, I give her a bottle she cries…etc. How can I get her to sleep without letting her “cry it out?” She was a premie and had some lung problems should I talk with her pediatrician about this?
Hi my child has the following problems at the momment which are all new since our move from Whangarei to Wellington. We have to sit by him or lie by him during the day otherwise he will not stay in his bed for a sleep. At night it takes us about 2 hours of putting him back to bed and then an hour of sitting in his room before he will go to sleep. If we sit there he does not get off the bed, but plays up constantly. Then during the night he will wake up 2-3 times and then my husband due to being tired sleeps with him as he keeps getting out the bed if we put him back. We are at a stage where his sleeping problem has my husband sleeping in his bed more than half the night. He is 23 months old. Would your sleeping programme cover all the problems i have? One thing i found about other programes it it covers some problems but not others. eg: teachs you to put your child back in their bed when they get up but does not take into consideration the that he is actually scared and wants you with him. (seperation anxiety) sorry for the long comment but this sleeping problem has started causing arguments and now i need to find a solution. My son does have a dummy and a little fluffy lamb which he sleeps with. He is also still on 3 bottles a day. thank you Lee-ann
My 19 mon. old son sleeps fine from 7:30ish till 1:00ish, but after that, he wakes very frequently…like every 5 minutes for hours! During this time, he is screaming, crying, tossing, turning, and grabbing fro my hair. He seems desperate. It doesn’t fit the definition of night terrors…what do I do? No one is getting any sleep!!!!
My daughter is 21 months old and still goes down with a bottle and wakes for a diaper change and bottle at least once a night. She’s only been sleeping well since we got this program (thank you Dana!!) so I’m afraid to take the bottle away as it may ruin the sleep we’ve finally been getting. Lily is also only in the 45 percentile of weight in her age group (she was 3 weeks early and only 4.5 lbs at birth). Would eliminating the bottle from her sleep routine help her sleep all the way thru the night, or just make things worse?
hello dana
im diandra shazneys mummy
ive send you 6 emails and still i cant find your answer can you help me plsssss
My just turned 6 month old who weighs about 18 pounds goes to sleep on his own terrifically for naps and at bed time at 8pm, however, he wakes usually between 10 and 12 then again around 1 or 2 and again around 4pm. I usually feed him between 10 and 12 and again at 4 because a naturopath told be breast fed babies need to eat every three hours through the night (I don’t believe this) but question if he is waking because he is hungry. If I don’t feed him I put his pacifier back in, pat him and he goes back to sleep only to wake up 10 to 20 minutes later. He also wakes at 6am and I think this is too early…beacause he is very tried again at 7:30am. But he is wide awake at 6…hum….Help! I think he should be getting through at least from his last late feed until 6am. Thanks for your help.
We are doing all the things we should as far as establishing a good bed time routine, but she wakes several times a night and will fight sleep for more than 2 hours sometimes. What will make her stop waking so frequently? My husband and I are exhausted and we both work. Nora is 15 months old so she knows what she wants but you can’t completely reason with her. Help!
My 8 month old daughter still wakes up during the night. She goes to bed between 6 – 6:30 and usually wakes at 11pm and then 5pm. I know that she shouldn’t be hungry but seems to need a bottle to get her back to sleep. What can I do to help her sleep through the night and get back to sleep if she does wake during the night?
We have six month old twins. They still do not sleep through the night. They both fall asleep between 7:30 and 8:00. Trevor usually wakes up more often than Tyler. I am trying to NOT feed them, but after numerous attempts to get them back to sleep on their own, I usually give in and feed them once/night. We are just so exhausted by that point. I wonder if we should try putting the twins in separate rooms, but have felt doing that would be unfair to the one we move. That one would be out of his comfy, cozy, familiar space. Thoughts?
My 1 year old baby finally started sleeping through the night (9pm-8am) but now he is getting his molars so he wakes up 1-3 times during the night and started to wake up at 7am or earlier. He is not getting alot of sleep and getting alot of fevers and diaper rashes. Is this going to perminatley ruin his sleep routine? What do I do to try and keep him on the routine?
My daughter (14 months old) is now on a routine and bedtime is totally easy (without a bottle) But she still wakes up in the middle of the night and walks to our bed but and goes back to sleep (still without a bottle), so there is not a whole lot of sleep lost, but it is interupted. How can I get her to sleep completely through the night in her bed? And my second concern is that she sleeps so wild, all over the bed pretty much throwing her body all over. This is a problem when she comes to our bed. What can I do to help her sleep more calmly? Thanks for you help!
Ebony
My question is about naps. my 7 month old sleeps well at night, 7pm to 7am. but she takes very short naps. 45 minutes at the most, twice a day. I’ve tried everything to get the naps to go longer; rushing in to catch her right as she wakes up to soothe her back to sleep, or letting her cry longer etc.
I’ve also tried instilling the 9am and 1pm nap so that maybe she’ll sleep longer if I keep her up until 1 but still doesn’t work.
at this point she is getting around 14 hours sleep total. is it possible that she doesn’t need longer naps? I hear that most babies have two long naps (9 – 11am and 1 – 3 ish)?
Hi Dana,
First I want to thank you for your program. It gave me and my husband the support, confidence and information that we needed in order to get our son Jakob to sleep through the night. THANK U!!!
I have a question though. Jakob wakes up every morning and after every nap crying. He just does not seem happy until we are up an about and he gets his milk. I am not sure if this is normal but sometimes it is so hard to hear in the morning and I just want him to be happy that he see us in the morning. Is this normal and if not is there a way to fix this? He goes to be awake anytime between 7 and 7:30pm and then wakes anywhere from 6 to 6:30am. Mostly 6am and sometimes it has even been earlier but we do our best to let him stay there until 6:00am as that is the time we are willing to get up with him. He is a happy baby so I am not sure why he has to wake up this way.
Thanks for your time.
Debbie Koziel from Halifax Nova Scotia :o)
I have 13 month old boy/girl twins. They sleep in the same room in their own cribs. We have kept them on the same schedule since we brought them home. They go to bed approx 6:30pm. My daughter is waking up most mornings at 5:00am or so. I have tried to go in and rub her back and replace the paci, but she only settles down. She ultimately wakes her brother us. When they wake this early, their first ‘nap’ is around 7:30am. Most times they get an afternoon nap for 1-2 hours and are up by 3-4pm. Is there any ‘twist’ to twins in this scenario? Is it our nap schedule that is preventing the morning wake time. 6:30-7am would be perfect. Thanks
I am “sleep training” my 2 year old who just moved into his bed from a crib (for the 1st couple weeks we lay down in his bed with him) as you suggested (keep putting him down) but after the 3rd night, he still thinks it’s a game and giggles every time I pick him up to put him back into bed – after an hour! It’s been 3 nights. I also tried taking away his security blanket & soother but by the third time he was handing it to me to take away. (my husband thinks I didn’t take it away for long enough). Last night I finally left the room but stayed where he could see me. He was calling for me to play from his door but I ignored him. AFter the 2nd time, when I finally went back into his room, he was so tired, he flopped on the bed and crashed. HELP! Should I not have just left him? Should I stick out the “putting him back into bed over and over and over”?
BTW: the dream feed worked like a charm for me. My little guy would still sometimes wake sometimes in the night but never again to feed.
hi there, brady is 15 months old now.
thanks again
We have a 2 year old girl who we adopted from China at 9 mo. old. We see a lot of good advice but never any for those of us with a child who is dealing with attachment issues. She has been terrified of the crib since we brought her home. We now put the crib up in our room next to our bed (one side open and up to our bed) and we can get her to sleep in there, but not without a bottle, someone sleeping by her, and now a movie. She does not self sooth and fall asleep on her own. We have tried everything but she will scream and scream and is literally terrified of being alone or not with us. Is there any advice you can give to us, or any specific information for adoptive parents that we could get?
hi there, my problem with brady is that.. he dont have very much milk in the day but he wakes up at least 3-4 times a night looking for his bottle. he had heart surgury in oct so i do not like to leave him to cry his self to sleep. he will sleep in his crib for about 2-3 hrs and then wakes up crying, when i put him in the bed with me he will normally go back to sleep. with him being sick when he was smaller i always rocked him to sleep, now i have to lie down with him to get him to sleep. i think maybe it is because he went throught alot a few months ago and he likes to be close to me in order to feel safe. how do i get him off the bottle in the night times. he eats a good supper and i have him on a rutine.. bath at 6:30 then a little play time a cartoon and then in bed by 7:30. he had alot of tests done befour and after his surgury lots of blood work so could he still be scared? i tried to get him to get attached to a teddy or blanket and that do not work either. he normally sleeps pretty good but will not sleep in the crib all night. he loves when i am in the bed with him, he snuggles right in to me and goes on to sleep. please help… can you give me some advice on what it could be.. or how to help.
thank you
kelly
My now nine month old daughter wakes repedely during the night. She goes to bed between 8 and 9(we start the bed time routine at 7). She will wake up at around 11 and then again anywhere from 1 to 3. I usually will give her a bottle/nurse depending on which one she wants/responds too. Please help me help her to sleep better. She doesn’t like the paci usually. (only two naps during the day one at 10:30 for an hour and one at 3 for 30 min to an hr
My 25 month old Daughter sleeps well until about midnight and then starts stiring. She seems to want a bottle whenever she wakes and has been like this since I weaned her at 9 months. She will become hysterical to the point that she is screaming,crying, and then sobbing. Even when I used to pick her up to comfort her, she would behave the same.
Now it has become a habbit and I dont know what to do to stop it. I also have a 12 month old and a 4 year old that wake when my 25month old carries on like she doese. Sometimes comforting her in her cot works but when she wants a bottle there is no substitute that I have found.
I am hoping you could help as I am at a loss.
Yolanda
my daughter is used to being rocked to sleep at night and for naps. she is 3 months old. when do you reccomend that we start getting her to fall asleep on her own?
My baby is sleeping on his own at home but my mother will be looking after him when I go back to work. Unfortunately he won’t sleep at her house. He screams and screams. What can I do to help him transition to having naps at grandmas the way he has them at home?
My 11-month old daughter hasn’t slept through the night since she started teething. She goes to bed around 8, is up between 9 and 10, up again around 11, sleeps until around 2 or 3, and is up several more times. She starts in her crib, but after her 3rd time awake, I usually bring her to my bed. The worst part about it all is that she wakes up screaming angry, usually because she has rolled into the side of her crib. She is a highly emotional child, everything she does is to the extreme. I’m literally tired of fighting with her at night.
How do you get a spouse to understand how important it is to get a plan & stick with it? My spouse constantly goes against everything I try to do with our son. The only problem is I’m the ONLY one getting up at night with him, while my spouse is sound asleep. I work full time & I go on about 3-5 hours asleep a day. It’s to the point that I have thought about getting a divorce just to get him out of the house so my son & I can get a schedule & get some sleep.